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writes:I don't know if this is a really stupid question or not but here goes:I broke up with my girlfriend about 4 years ago, she was quite jealous and it drove me nuts. In the end I didn't treat her very well, I started to ignore her. Until one day she confronted me at university. I apologized, I said she deserved better then me, and that I couldn't give her what she wanted. We both were crying when we had this talk...Anyways, we've been talking on and off via email maybe every 6 months for the last 4 years. These are just short "hey how are you, whats new?" kind of things that I always initiate.I've always regretted the way I treated her, and I've regretted ending things with her. I don't think anyone I have been with before and after her has ever cared for me as much as she did. I never had the guts to tell her how much I truly regret ending things. I sent her an email just yesterday, I'm not sure if she's read it yet, just asking how she's doing. I think she might just be tired of communicating with me. I could tell for the first year after we had split she still cared for me. I still had feelings for her at this point but had my doubts about things working between us.My questionns are: Would it be appropriate now for me to tell her how much I regret leaving her, and how I treated her? I would really like to be friends with her. It's been a long time, I don't know what kind of person she is now. I've always wondered what things would have been like if we stayed together. Often times I think she was the one I was suppose to end up with, and I threw her away, and that there is no point of even trying.Thanks ahead of time for your repsonses. I hope this isn't a stupid question.
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reader, corbandallas +, writes (29 October 2010):
corbandallas is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI was planning on just telling her that I regret what I did, and tell her that I wondered what would have become of us if we did stay together. I really just want to get that off my chest. I'd like to be friends with her.
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reader, TeenGirl101  +, writes (28 October 2010):
You should tell her how you you feel about her. If she doesn't return the feelings then, you should move on. If she does return the feelings then, you should try to work it out by saying that you're sorry for treating her the way you did. Just be honest with her and hopefully, she will be honest with you. Good Luck! :)
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