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female
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30-35,
*0ldie
writes:I dated my boyfriend for 8months and we started drifting apart. I attributed it to the fact that he was working at that time (it was vacation. We're both college students) so maybe that's why we couldn't hear from eachother much. That was actually our first time spending some time apart, so I guess it was so hard trying to keep the relationship alive. But we pulled through and moved on. But after the 12th month, I got really miserable. I realized I was the one in control of this relationship and I was feeling so much pressurized with all the work I was doing to keep us going, so I pleaded with him that he should take over, and he agreed to. So I stopped trying to keep the relationship moving, and well, it was dying slowly. I eventually asked for a break where we were suppose to put down our own faults and work on them before we get back together. I won't say he did so because I was extra miserable when we got back together. I realized he was being a kid by leaving everything up to me because that's what grown ups do; they accept responsibilities. And sad enough, I don't date kids. I just can't stand the attitude. So I told him I couldn't do this anymore, and broke up with him 2days ago, and it took like 3hrs to because he was saying he will never break up with me and so I should forget about a break up because he loves me and I am his girlfriend. He's been threatening to kill himself after he finally agreed to the break up. Well my problem is, I love him. I really really do. I want to go back to him. But I don't know if it's because it's been just 2days since the break up that's why I am feeling this way or it's because I really want to be with him. And I keep telling myself that I can't stand being hurt anymore, plus he's a kid. I just don't know what to do. Please help me with some advice. Thanks in advance
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (30 April 2013):
 I was exhausted just reading your post. This relationship is too much work. You do know that boyfriends are supposed to be fun and make us happy, right? If you have a pair of shoes that hurt your feet, do you wear them? Don't go back, go forward.
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