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writes:I really need help, I broke up with my boyfriend like a month ago and I´m having hard times trying to move forward, we had really good times together, but we ended up in really bad terms, he was rude and mean to me. Trying to escape from my reality I decided to go on a trip for a while, it helped a bit, but I realized that I can´t escape from it and now that I have to go back soon all those memories came to my mind again, Ive really missed him a lot, and recently i saw a new picture of him and my feelings for him revived, I really want to text him or call him when I´m back, but im scared to get a negative and hurtful answer, please I need help with this, some good advice from you guys, I´ll be forever grateful.Thanks in advance.
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reader, Jes  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 Break up is always painful in whatever way it happened. More specially when the two parties parted uneven and in bad terms. And moving on will be hard to do as well. Don't worry, if you really love him and as what you have said that both of you have loved each other as well, he might be experiencing the very same hurt feelings that you are now. time can really easen up the tension between of you. it'll took some time and I guess, when you are really cleared out all the issues on yourself and his issues as well, the two of you can began talking about what will happen and what should happen after. take some time to simply think of issues that the two of you might be facing. For you, is your personal issues that might have made him act the way he acted on you before. If he was mean to you before, there must be something that is bothering him or simply there is something in you that made him like that. Think about it first and then accept for yourself your own faults in your relationship. there must be something for sure. give each toher time to heal some wounds and clear your head with unresolved issues before and when the two of you are ready, it'll fall into its proper place. No matter, don't bother think of ways on how to get back to him or move on, there is no official final curtain call. Instead, use the time to think about thhings that can resolve the issue and then then, you can rest assured of what to do next, to move on or be with him again. If the relationship doesn;t work out, accept it and part in good terms. that way, it'll be easier to move on without hesitation. Hope this helps ",)
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