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writes: Hi,I have just ask my 2 years boyfriend a breakup. It has not even reached 24hours yet and I already wish he will be knocking on my door.He admitted that we both have flaws. He said I cannot see his openness to and see it as not caring. As for him, he cannot see my sensitivity.It is true what people said, you may be smart, but when it comes to love and heart, your smart brain defeated.I know I should not call or contact or keep in touch. I can never get my head to control my heart and actions. Yes, we text each other and called. My brain told me to hold myself together, yet i called. Now I wish so badly he will knock on my door. Even on the phone, I give signals that I wish you come and knock on my door and work this out. But he never get my signals (like always).Now I am not in total mess yet, but i think i might be very very soon.. I did get myself busy, only when I reach my place, I am starting to lose it. Even I stay at my friend's place, I cannot stay overnight due to my schedule and my work, i need my privacy. Is there any drug I could take to get on...?If anyone out there know how to get on without losing the head or lose control of your mind, please tell me how... I really like to be able to control myself, but right now i cannot..Please tell me what to do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi,
Thanks for replying my question.. it has been 2 weeks now and my heart feel so tired.. i want to go out to visit my grandma and my sisters but i am just so tired to even leave my room. it is my off day, so i slept half of the day, make pancakes n eat and watch dvds.
i have cried and cried and cried.. what the anonymous lady said is right.. i broke up with him for a reason which is not my fault and it hurts me like hell, yet I respected my self worth (just like the anonymous lady), therefore i did not contact him and knowing my weakness that i would, i delete his contact my my phone (he got a new number, i never memorize it eventhough i was the 1st person he gave the number to. i do remember his other number, but convince myself that mostly he is using the new number).
my friends do text me to check up on me though. i am grateful fot that.
generally, my heart feel so hurt and aching that it drains my energy to do much.
even during weekdays, i go to work and straight back to my place. my housemates are very surprise as usually i would come back probably at 9pm or later.. never at 5.30pm.. i feel so tired now.. but i do read books about breakup or about a guy who is not into someone.. i use the book as a friend who remind me that he already stop loving me.. and i should not call or contact him.. this is how i keep myself busy..
is this normal?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): So I know how you are feeling. The same thing happened to me. I found out that my boyfriend was cheating on me w/ another guy. He was texting him saying: Meet me in the bathroom at 9:10 first hour so we can touch eachother. I totally flipped out. I was like: First, you say that you love me, you tell me to stay with you, and you think we are the perfect couple, just to doubt it?? It's been 5 days and I have been really depressed, like always. I mean, I love him, and I want him back, but I broke up w/ him because of what he did, and even though I hurt myself from it, I respected my self worth. Hoped this helped. :/
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (31 May 2010):
All I can say is carry on as you are and make sure you're keeping busy with friends and work. You are doing the right thing. You know he's not into you as much as you are into him. That's what you have to keep remembering here. If you try to go back with him, you'll either end up being used or you'll end up being even more heartbroken. You need to keep busy with your own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhi CaringGuy,
i have control myself for a week not calling him. however, he did text me asking me to return one of his work uniform the other day cuz he need to use (i understand it had nothing to do with me) when i went to return it back, i control myself from throwing myself to him. he did however mention we shall (not should or must) meet again and get back together. also i control myself and said it is impossible due to our different path in the relationship.
this happened 4 days ago and i still keep holding on and control myself from contacting him.
honestly, it is very very hard. everytime i come back to my place, secretly i hope that he will surprise me by waiting for me there with flowers. but, of course, in order to avoid myself from hurting so much, i convinced myself that it will never happen. it kinda work.
i did and still do have the temptation to call or even text him. but i know i should not. and fearing this, i made a list in my little notebook (not a laptop, but a small notebook i keep in my handbag) the reasons i end the relationship. any new thoughts, i write it down. this is only a reminder to me in moment of desperation.
i am afraid from falling apart due to this break up. am i doing it right? i don't want to fall apart. i love him and i miss him, and this breakup is breaking my heart. it hurts so much. i am scared to tell anyone bout this breakup cuz i know i might break down if i do.
so please tell me what am i to do. is there anything else i should do to handle this break up? it has only been one week. it just getting harder. i had breakups before, but this is the one i feel so sad (not angry with regrets). it is simply just so heartbreaking sad cuz he is not in the same bout with me in this relationship.
if you have any tips and advice to help, i will be so grateful..
regards, thank you.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 May 2010):
No drugs for a start. I'm afraid this is very much a case of you getting out there with other friends and keeping buys with work and such. It's only been 24 hours, and you're already feeling this way. You need to let him go. There are too many problems already. Delete his number and his contacts, and just get out there. Don't go back to him, because if you do the same problems will be there and you'll only end up breaking again. Delete everything and get out there and get busy doing something else.
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