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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I was in a relationship with a man for last 2 years. He was 10 years younger to me. Im 38 and he 28. when we first met was ok with the difference. we had made plans to remain in the relationship for the next 2 years and see how it goes and take it from there.Last week he emailed me and told me that he wants to focus on his career and wants to be just friends with me. I wrote back saying I dont want to be friends with him and that he should never contact me. thats it.. the thing is i miss him and i am angry with myself.... I know i need to go on .. but its becoming a strain... what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): Hey...cheer up...Ihave been where you are at...Five years later....I see him driving about or walking in town...and guess what..I say to myself...Good God woman...what were you thinking. Trust me when I tell you this. You have done the right thing. Ten years difference is not a big gap at yours and his age,but imagine, if you had stayed with him. You become 50 he is still only 40! Get my drift here. You were strong at that moment, now the weak moments creep in. Keep busy, see your mates, throw yourself into work. Chase that promotion you have always talked about. Time will heal you, trust me, I know.He wants to plough himself into his career. In my opinion that was him really saying "She is too old for me, I dont want this, I will let her down gently with the "old work" thing". He did you a favour because it prompted you to be strong and basically you told him to sling his hook. Dont contact him, dont chase him. Put yourself first.Good Luck ..I know I am right, I have lived it.
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