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writes:theres a guy i like, and we flirt and regually send each other bad messages, pictures etc.however i believe he is just after one thing.but because im so attracted to him it doesnt bother me. his asked how far i would go with him and iv said all the way (thinking about it without regreting this) However i am very inexpirienced whilst he is not. But being nearly 18 i am old enough to make my own decisions without being judged. keeping this in mind though, am i just leading myself up to getting hurt because there are feeling invloved, and i dont think his after a relationship?
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reader, tasha556  +, writes (27 June 2007):
 if you do go all the way and your feelings grow stronger for him and he was only after one thing then your definietly gonna get hurt.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (27 June 2007):
You are right, at almost 18 its your choice and no one has a right to say bad about it. But if you think, even for a minute you will get hurt...then i would not get involved. If you both just wanted to have sex, i think it would be fine. But if you have feelings for him (that will most likely grow) and he doesnt have the same feelings for you, it could end in tears. Why dont you ask him what he wants, ask him if he just wants no strings sex or if he is interested in a relationship. But careful that he doesnt lie just to get into bed with you. If he says he wants a relationship, go out for a few months before you have sex. Its not unfair to expsect him to wait.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (27 June 2007):
 If you have feelings for this lad then a one night stand is going to leave you feeling shitty and used even if you consented. This lad does seem to want to get his leg over with you, but you sound like you want more.
Ask him what he wants- is it just sex with you. If he answers yes then I would seriously think about stopping the contact with him as you ill only end up getting hurt!
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (27 June 2007):
 Hi,
My advice would be not to go there. For one thing even though you are nearly 18, you dont sound ready for this. I am a bit of a romantic, and I do believe the first time with a guy, should be special and not something you regret later. I am not saying stay a virgin, but at least wait to find a guy that really cares about you.
It can be quite an unpleasant experience the first time, although not for everyone. You need someone you can trust and be relaxed with, that will be gentle and carefull. Not a guy that is sending you pictures of his bits. (I hope thats what you meant by pictures).
Whatever you decide, take care. (God I am sounding like my mother). XXX
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reader, flower girl +, writes (27 June 2007):
 If you have feelings for him and you know that are not reciprocated then you are most definatly going to get hurt, yes you are old enough to make your own decisions so you need to think hard about this.
If you are prepared to just have sex and except there will be nothing else then go for it, but if you do not think you can handle that then walk away.
Take care.xx.
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