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writes:my boyfriend finished with me just before xmas, we had been seeing each other for eight months. I was gutted but accepted it and tried to carry on with my life. Well he kept asking to meet up and everytime we did we acted as boyfriend and girlfriend, he told me he really loved me, then just before new year said he needed space and time on his own for a while. So I said fine have your space but in meantime I will carry on with my life, and not sit around waiting. Well over the next 2 weeks every couple of days he would text saying he missed me and loved me. Eventually he asked to cook for me. Well he spent all weekend with me. Then same again following week. So I then said Im fed up want to know where I stand, either Im your girlfriend and we go for it or I walk away. So he said lets go for it. But now I feel a little frustrated as he does not really push to see me much. He came round wed, and now wont see him till sun. Do I just be patient and cool ? He talks about a future with me, is adoring when Im with him tells me he loves me. Am I just expecting too much?
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reader, jabey +, writes (26 January 2007):
jabey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for your replies. I think i do need to relax. I have three children and when he met me he had only just come out of a relationship with a woman of 6 years who also had her own 2 children. I think really this is the route of his caution. As he misses those children alot and is afraid of getting involved with me and my children in case it breaks down and he has to go through that pain again. I do believe there is noone else. As he is a decent man, and would not spend whole weekends with me and my kids as he knows that would be unfair on the children. Also pretty sure he would not bring up talking about the future with me, he always proposes when drunk. Think if someone else involved future talks would not be a subject.
So will step back, luckily I do have a busy life, and Im out all weekend with friends. And he has texted today saying how he is looking forward to Sunday.
Thankyou again. Time for me to chill and have faith.
P.s He is actually with family on Sat night, thats why not seeing him till sun.
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reader, jabey +, writes (26 January 2007):
jabey is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthankyou for your replies. I think i do need to relax. I have three children and when he met me he had only just come out of a relationship with a woman of 6 years who also had her own 2 children. I think really this is the route of his caution. As he misses those children alot and is afraid of getting involved with me and my children in case it breaks down and he has to go through that pain again. I do believe there is noone else. As he is a decent man, and would not spend whole weekends with me and my kids as he knows that would be unfair on the children. Also pretty sure he would not bring up talking about the future with me, he always proposes when drunk. Think if someone else involved future talks would not be a subject.
So will step back, luckily I do have a busy life, and Im out all weekend with friends. And he has texted today saying how he is looking forward to Sunday.
Thankyou again. Time for me to chill and have faith.
P.s He is actually with family on Sat night, thats why not seeing him till sun.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): You have a life too! Why are you letting him set the pace. Say you want to meet him on Saturday and go for a meal or a drink. Why does it have to be sunday, does he have a high profile job, does he work away? I have been through this up and down situation before and it is mind numbing, it really got me down. I chatted to my bloke and it turned out that he didn't really want a long term relationship afterall, Good, so we split. I then found someone who wanted to be with me 100% of the time.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2007): I think you are expecting too much, if you are frustrated about not being with him for 3 days, that is a bit much, just relax and let him set the pace for now, it sounds like he is coming around.
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