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writes:Okay, please, I really think, well I have no idea what to think. I have a great life, I mean terrific friends, good family, but im not happy. I was just outside one day, and I felt so small and so sad, about my life, that it was going nowhere and I keep feeling like this. I can't get happy. I don't know whats wrong, im not insane enough to kill myself or anything but I think somethings wrong. I don't want to tell anyone because what if im just sad for a bit then I get better, I don't want to freak anyone out. I told one of my close friends about me being sad, and she said she felt that way too sometimes and if i needed to talk she was there. I don't really want to talk to her, or anyone else for that matter so shrinks, and parents are out of the question. I just need to know, what does anyone think I should do? I can't get happy. The things that used to make me filled with happiness now are dull and sad. Please some advice on how to be happier. Thanks so much, and like I said don't suggets any kind of shrink or parents because I won't go. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOkay, well I don't like shrinks because, my older sister was depressed, and my mum found out and sent her to one, she ended up killing herself, and later we found a "journal" and it said, why she killed herslef, and that it made her feel crazy that mum sent her to a shrink. So thanks but no thanks. I don't like talking to people because no matter if they "promise" not to tell, they will, they'll tell my mum. And for those of you who said, why don't you play a sport or activity? Well I do I play basketball,softball,vollyball,cheerleading,drama,and dance. And I hate it all now. Its so boring, and I just want to come home and go to bed. I had straight A's in all my classes, and now I have C's and D's. I don't know why, I just can't concentrate. I used to love school, no it just bores me. My bf always asks why im sad, and I say im not, even on our dates, he says I act different. I'm so confused, I want my life back, im always tired, and bored with everything. So, no to activities, and differntly no to shrinks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): You're a teenager! It's the hardest time of life for many many people. You're growing up and changing. Only a while ago you were playing with toys but now you've outgrown that. But you're not yet grown-up. It's a kind of limbo-land. You're too old to do lots of things and not old enough to lots of other things. You are facing not only this but also your hormones are going crazy. It's all a recipe for grief and angst.
There are practical things you can do for yourself. Make sure you're eating properly. Many women suffer pre-menstral tension before their periods and it has been shown that very many cases of this can be remedied by diet. I'm not up on all the research, but I do know that eating something starchy every 2 hours (a digestive biscuit for example) has amazing results when used by many women with pre-menstral tension. The hormones that cause pre-menstral tension are the same ones you've got buzzing around your body at the moment.
Make sure you exercise - I don't mean go to the gym (unless you really want to). Walking is brilliant. Exercise releases your natural supply of seratonin, the body's feel good hormone and makes you feel better. And although you feel like you don't want to share how you feel with anybody it really is a good idea to. Talking always helps with problems - be they monumental or small and not talking only stores up problems for the future. You don't have to see a counsellor, although that can be really beneficial. Just talking things over with somebody you're close to can make all the difference. Think about what you're interested in and see whether you could join a club related to it, becoming involved in activity is a good way to distract from feeling sad.
If you try lots of different things and nothing works then it really is worth going to a doctor as you could be depressed. Depression, if it turns out that's what you've got (and it really isn't the only possibility) isn't a mental illness. It's simply a chemical imbalance and it can be rectified in many different ways. Your doctor won't send you to see a shrink if you go to her or him and say you feel sad, she or he will go through different questions to ascertain what would be beneficial for you.
The main thing to remember is that it will get better, you won't always feel sad. Everybody has times when they don't feel brilliant. Just be nice to yourself and don't blame yourself because you haven't done anything wrong at all
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2008):
 If you think negative, negative things will come to you ,
You need to start thinking of the positive things in your life.It will attract the positive things to you.
You take many things in your life for granted .
Remember everything comes with a price. Learn to value those things before they are gone.
Count your blessings! It is the small - small things which can make you happy.
Think of others and do not think of self and you will find happiness.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2008): Honey, I'm so sorry to hear your feeling that way. And I don't mean to be patronising (coz I often feel bad saying what I'm about to say, incase it comes across badly) but it's probably influenced by so many raging hormones around your body. In a way, it's natural to have these horrible feelings, but its still hard. All I can say is that I'm here for you ok honey, it sometimes helps just to talk to someone or find a friend in someone.
Give yourself something new in your life to focus on - like a new hobby or sport. Organize a trip out with your friends one day to look forward to, or a sleepover. Charity work can also make you feel better, happier, and as though you've made good use of your time. What's necessary at this stage is to put something good back into your life. You never know, this could just be the first step to making yourself feel a whole lot better.
If you want, you can message me and we can talk. I won't judge or anything, and if you like, you can just let out all your anger or emmotions and I'll be there, because I know thats what you probably feel like you need right now. Just, someone. And you'll never see me, so it makes it all the easier :] but whatever you do, good luck honey.
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