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writes:Ive been back with my ex for 4 months were living together and im totally in love. i broke up with him 2 years ago coz of drugs and hes having a bit of trouble trying to forget how much hurt he went through but he only told me yesterday that he cheated on me 3 times after he said he loved me. we went out for about 10 months. this time round he hasnt cheated but is back on weed and has done coke 2 times so far. i need to get it into his head to stop this but he says im nagging and wants to have a good time. he says he doesnt know what he wants and keeps changing his mind about us but said we would be friends no matter what. i dont know what to do or say to him now does he need a doctors help? please help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2011): we have split up but seeing as though there's nowhere for either of us to go at the moment were having to live together for the time being but i am looking for somewhere to rent right now. I realise the we cannot keep going on like this anymore. Thanks for the advice
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reader, macdubh712  +, writes (12 April 2011):
He's not ready for you, and Lord help you women, you can't change a man. He has to do that from inside himself. In other words, because he wants to. I say take some time to yourself to get over this guy and find one that has his head on straight. If he has a bonafide problem with drugs then more than likely he won't stop.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 April 2011):
 Eh sort of. More like he needs to go to a rehab center for drug addicts.
Here's the thing, there's no beating it into his head that he needs to stop using drugs. He's been like this from day 1 and you know that. Your druggie boyfriend doesn't want to kick his drug habits. YOU CANNOT HELP someone who DOESN'T WANT to HELP themselves. You CANNOT CHANGE him, that is what you need to understand.
Now, I suggest collecting your things, move out of you already haven't, and move on from this loser. He will never amount to anything if he keeps on using, but you don't have to go down with him.
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