A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hi guys I need someone there to tell me whether I am doing the correct thing or not with regard to my extra marital flirtation?I fell for the extraordinary knowledge of my boss in each and everything be it his own field or something elso and should admit that I was attracted to him initially like that since i found my husband from a village and whom i thought had no such eloborate knowledge like my boss.Secondly, he is of my same age, around 32 when i joined him. I worked with him for two years and he himself admitted that we both share a great chemistry and whatever he thought in his mind, i used to put it in action and showed him the result the very next second. We even thought that we both had good telepathy. Then he wanted me to prepare coffee for him when there is domestic servent. I donotknow why i wanted to take care of him at every level as if he is my husband and prepared coffee. Although we both never spoke anything about our feelings, one thing is clear that we both are mutually attracted to each other. I dont know whether it is lust but i was so crazy about him that i could not remain without thinking of him any time although i am married to a very beautiful person and have a very beautiful boy both of whom i love and never want to stay apart. This boss also is married and has two daughters, almost the same age of my son. Although I loved him, i am still not sure, i never told him this because i was his well wisher and donot want to spoil our marriages which are very happy. i resigned my job but regret and feel shame to say that till date i am unable to forget him and one new year i told my feelings to him thru mail but did not receive any reply. but he used to call me up and i am sending him mails even now after joining a new company and now he returning my replies in single word or two. I now dont tell him anything regarding my feelings because i think he is not interested in me or he is not letting his feelings out. Whatever it is, i dont want to disturb his family life and also mine, but because i am unable to forget him just continuing to post him some messages. pls advise me what i should do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2010): you are married
he is married
you both have families
you are playing with fire
you will get burned
you will then pay the price when you are disgraced by your il laws and friends . is this what you want.
stop courting trouble and stay away from this married man.
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reader, BunnyTee  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Sounds like good old fashioned INFATUATION to me. INFATUATION is TEMPORARY. Forget about it, it'll wear off and you'll soon be wondering what on earth ever made you think this guy was so fascinating to begin with. You made a commitment, you gave your word when you promised yourself fully to your husband. Your boss is married with two kids, so he made the same promise to someone else. KEEP YOUR WORD. Do the right thing. Hold yourself to a higher standard than that of an alley cat in heat. Believe me, it's a flash-in-the-pan infatuation. Take responsibility for your own mind and kick your ex-boss out of it. Be what you promised to be to your husband or dissolve the marriage completely before pursuing any man who happens to intrigue you. You won't regret it. To thine own self be true..you're only as good as your word so keep it!
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