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male
age
30-35,
*ellium
writes:Hello guys.I got a problem, and will try to keep it short, for the sake of sparing you time..I got to meet a girl who is having a bad time in her relationship. I have a protecting instinct, so I blew up her relationship with her boyfriend a week ago and we started to come closer to eachother.She has a bad past: Her father used to beat and abuse her, her mother was a real whore (her parents are obviously divorced at this time), and therefore she didn't have good examples in her life. She used to get called a slut in her hometown, and thus they were right, she has changed now, or at least that is the feeling I have.I am trying to help her out and show her that there are people that won't look at her taking in consideration her past and being close-minded. I am falling in love for her slowly, even though I told her that I still can't say I love her.The problem is that she used to betray her boyfriends with other guys before breaking up, junping this way into her next relationship.The one I broke was going on for 1,8 years. But the guy kinda oppressed her. He started forbidding her to do things, see friends, and even started stalking her. for 5 months they had been fighting, not being happy at all with her situation.Yesterday I spent the night over at her's. She gives me the impression that she really really is into me, but then I get weird sensations that something is not completely right here...Her boyfriend changed his status in facebook (yes, yes, this might sound stupid, but it annoys me) to single today, in the early afternoon and erased me from his friend list, after sending me a message calling me stuff.SHe called me from work at the time she had her lunch break, and I used that moment to tell her what happened. She seemed indifferent to what happened, and we were talking about what we shall do today, because tomorrow is Sunday and we could actually do some cool stuff tonight.Now I went to her Profile, and see there, today, the 11th February, she has a Status actualization saying that she and her Ex (?? I dont know what's going on now, therefore the question marks) are in a relationship AGAIN, thus he changed his status to single just a few hours earlier.Wtf? She told me she would call me as soon as her boss leaves the Restaurant to avoid trouble. IN 2 Hours from now (8 PM GMT +1) she ends her work shift, and still hasn't called.We didn't have sex yet, just for the record.what am I supposed to think at this moment? I am a little confused because I dont know where I am right now.I did what I did to help her. Obviously I liked her, but destroying a relationship just for the sake of getting to her is against my principles. I did it because her Ex (??) is just not the right guy for her and because I know I can help her out! It's not the first time I have done this, sucessfully every time until date. He fears her attitude and is overcontrolling, tightening her way too mouch. Even her family talks bad about her.I'd be thankful for any kind of Advice! Thanks in advance.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 I guess you should listen to Banshee. I agree with most of what she said.
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