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writes:I can't stand it when my boyfriend looks at porn on the internet. He says he does it because they do things that I dont really do, like deep throat. I know that he is a guy and most guys masturbate to porn but then again, I wanna be a cool girlfriend who trusts him and doesnt care about him looking at that stuff, but how do I begin to do that?
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (2 August 2007):
No doubt he's also having a hard time with it too. This dirty old man couldn;t pass up the pun. To be serious Porn can be helpful to spice-up a relationship that is in the doldrums, but it should be a shared, viewing together. However, When ,or if, it becomes an addiction, to the exclusion of a normal sexual relationship, that's a whole different story. And then something got to give, something got to give.
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reader, blueberry  +, writes (2 August 2007):
 You dont have to worry about being cool. I know how you feel. Hes pressuring you. For him to say that he likes to watch it because its not what you do is just a tactless way of asking you to do those things. Even if you did those things the porn stars do he would still watch porn...gauranteed! You need to think about this guy youre with and reevaluate whats going on here. So many girls think that they are just insecure or differant than other girls...but the reality is that its the men that are in the wrong. You are very normal in this sense. Most women only "deep throat" and do the porn stuff with their men because they feel pressured and want to please their man. Maybe you should think of something wild and crazy that he isnt into and tell him youll do what he wants if he does what you want. He should be happy with whatever stuff you two do together. Maybe you can tell him to go fly a kite about all this because thats what id do! there are so many good men out there that will not ask you again and again to do what you dont want to do. Tell him that porn stars are paid Big Bucks to do that suff and youre doing what youre doing for free. When he starts giving you will too. And dont ever feel uncool because you wont "perform like a porn star in bed". You are not one and thats a good thing! tell him that if he wants to pollute his mind with images of other women than maybe he should take that and forget you. oaky im being extreme here but im tired of men and thier porn, and how us women let ourselves believe we are the only ones that dont do that stuff. You will do what feels natural to you. tell him that if youre not comfortablke he wont enjoy it so stick with what turns you on. He should get pleasure from what youre pleasured by anyways!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 August 2007): Hi, this question is posted almost every day, so if you want you can check out the "pornography" category; it ranges from women being upset about the occasional pornography viewing by their mates to mates who are seriously addicted to it and putting their relationship in danger (you may find yourself very relieved after reading some of these stories!) There are a lot of women upset about pornography (and it's helpful to know you're not alone) and there are just as many rational, intelligent explanations for it; reading these posts and the advice might make you feel better. Take care.
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