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writes:i find myself extremely attracted to older guys! not just because some show signs of maturity and have more in common with me but also because of their physical appearance. this isnt something recent its just something i dont really talk about for fear of being scolded for it. alot of people tell me that i shouldnt try getting with an older guy cuz it wouldnt work due to our age differences. they say that theyre in a different stage of life and would find me too inexperienced. they tell me to go out and party and do what young people do. but the thing is i really dont want to do all that. i dont really care much for partying and doing the whole club scene. its not that i dont ever wanna do it, just not alot. the way i see it, the media and people themselves make all that stuff seem like a rite of passage. on the contrary, i would much rather skip that part of my life and experience other things in life that are so much more productive. back to the older guy thing, i find them to have a lot more in common with me, particularly when it comes to intellect. when it comes to guys my age, the majority of them could care less for a stimulating conversation and would much rather smoke, blaze it, thizz, drink, and/or have sex. im not saying older guys dont do all that, but there are sure alot less that do. i want someone who could be both my man and best friend, doing everything together but still giving each other the necessary space. please tell me what you guys think cuz im tired of feeling guilty for wanting an older guy!
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reader, dat1trippy +, writes (12 February 2010):
dat1trippy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyea they know but they dont accept it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): But do your parents know that you are gay? I would say be very careful dating older guys. Because of the nature of secrecy surrounding most gay communities, you could find yourself used and dumped repeatedly before you get it. Make sure the guys you date are single and preferably 'out'. A good way to be sure is to visit their homes and see for yourself who lives there. Good luck.
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reader, dat1trippy +, writes (11 February 2010):
dat1trippy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey guys thanks for your answers it really is good to know you aren't alone anonymous! as for my age difference im 17 and im into guys in their mid 20s to 30. thanks for all the advice get back at me soon!
p.s- ey strontiumdog blaze it means to smoke marijuana and thizz is ecstasy
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2010): I truely understand how you feel....I am 17 years old and i have always had a thing for older men. I am poetic, and intelligent, and have great friends, but i have never found myself interested in the ignorance of guys my age. I have no interest in partying or clubing or whatever it is "normal, troublemaking teenagers" do, i dont get it? but anyway, i also am too afriad to tell my parents, i have even found myself a "boyfriend", he is 29 and we arent having sex, we both understand the consiquences (he stops us anytime we get too close) and i love him so much. Obviously my parents have no idea, and hopefully wont until i'm eighteen and out of the house (distance from them makes it easier, i'm sure you understand! lol) but like i said, i dont think its weird at all, if anything i think it shows maturity that you can withhold a relationship with an older man. My advice would deffinatly be not to sleep with him...at least until your leagal, it might be hard to be together if he's in jail. As for your parents not understanding, i have no idea, i'm still trying to fix that myself! But i am curious about the age diffrence between you and the men your intserested in, like i said my boyfriend and i have an age diffrence of 12 years, which i know it seems like alot...but 20 years from now it will seem like nothing, an age diffrence is only a big deal when it involes a high school student, which i personally think is hipicritical, love is love and age aint nothing but a number....but on the other hand, i get it. there's lots of creeps out there too! just make sure the guy you fall for is someone who can handle someone as great as you, and make sure you like him and that he isnt just spinning game on you making you think you like them (older guys have had alot more practice! lol)but overall, i'm not going to tell you its wrong because i dont think it is, handled the right way, you could go on to live a very happy life with a man who is your age or 20 years older than you.....age aint nothing but a number honey! but be safe, try to avoid sex, think before you leap, but also...dont be afriad to love someone because your worried other people wont approve, its your life...your the only who gets to make the final desision!I am happy to see i'm not the only one going through this bizzare mix of emotions, sometimes you just need to know your not alone, and i think you've helped me alot too (hopefully i helped), i really wish there was a way to talk and share stories cause i think we could be good friends!! LOL well good luck, and i wish you all the best, i really do!!
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reader, purpleprincess  +, writes (10 February 2010):
Hey I'm feeling ya here I had the same thing. There's a 9yr difference between me and my fiance and I got the whole age gap concerns from people. I agree with strontiumdog tho about waiting until its legal for you to have sex with older guys coz I did it wen I was 15 with the guy am with now and my mum tried to get him done for statutory rape. She didn't understand I loved him etc. I proved them wrong tho. Age gaps take a lot of efort and comunication but worth it if ya in love. I'm very family orientated and not into clubing but as a mum myself can see why my mum didn't like the older guy thing. Be safe and sensible know wot you want it doesn't mater wot others think x
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (10 February 2010):
just clarify, how much older are the guys you like? You are sixteen, right? There's a huge difference between a 16 yr old being attracted to a 21 year old guy and 16 yr old being attracted to a 61 year old so tell us the age range you like.
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