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anonymous
writes:Hello, I have been dating since 9 years now but since last one year it has become a long distance relationship. I have had trust issues before and they have only turned out to be worse now . Apparently, my boyfriend behaves goofy and I have caught him lying to me in the past. Sometimes i find him incredibly loving and most of the times very egoistic. I know the relation will get ugly if we keep it on .. But I somehow keep going back to him and I feel this is the reason why I am taken for granted . Please suggest me ways to avoid the feeling of getting back to him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2015): If you've been together for 9 years; doing the math, you were about 13 when you first met. Your age is placed between 22-25.
You're just used to your boyfriend, and he's like a habit. You're comfortable and complacent; because it would be too much trouble to ditch him, and have to go through the work of searching for a new match. You need to get some experience through dating different personality types of men; so you can find the kind the guy that is best for you.
He takes you for granted because you allow it. So stop.
How do you avoid not going back to him? There's nothing to it, but to do it.
Tell him you're done with the relationship, go no contact (cutoff all means of communication), and move on.
You have to have the courage and the backbone to standup for yourself, and stop caving-in when you get a little lonely. Courage is something you summon within yourself. There are a lot of books and publications out there, that tell you how. But advice is just written words on paper or a screen; unless you make a determined effort to execute the action.
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