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writes:Does it bother you, that you are still a virgin?I’m a guy, who’s a virgin, at 24 years old. I have never been on a single date. I feel like I’m going to grow old and alone, never experiencing what it is like to be in love. The thing is, I know still being a virgin is my decision, because I love and respect women so much that I would never want to hurt them. That is the main reason why I’m abstaining from sex till marriage because I believe in my heart it is the right thing to do. But by doing this, it is one of the main reasons why I’m still single, and the main reason why I feel I will never experience love, or get married, or have kids, I really don’t see why women aren’t attracted to a nice guy like me. I mean they say that’s what women want, so why am I still single?
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reader, jose cervantes  +, writes (2 November 2010):
Hey I still virgin and single. I am 24 almost turn 25 my b-day dec 12. I've never had girlfriend. Because I am deaf :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2007): Hey guy, I am thirty year old female virgin....surprise surprise. Trust me, I know what your going through. This world is so wrapped up in sex and people with different morals feel like they get screwed. I have never been on a date either. Most of it is because of fear and the other is I really don't have the time. Just realize there are other virgins out there who know how your feeling. Just keep your head up and God will bless you with the right person in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2007): Right, my name is Craig I'm 23 and I'm still a virgin, but it doesn't bother me and I'm going to have to stop you there, because I think you are being really silly. 1. You're trying to hard and 2. You're thinking about sex and relationships all the time it's becoming an obsession, if there is one thing that is going to drive people away, it's that. Okay I can understand you are curious and you are feeling depressed because you haven't even had a date, but that's because I think you are too uptight, you should learn to relax and enjoy self. If you are relaxed around women, they will feel comfortable around you and as the young lady said you should get out more and talk to women and conversation etc. Do you even know how to talk to women? You're only 24 for heaven sake, you're still a young pup, you should be
getting drunk with your mates and having a laugh and don't think about sex or relationships, just take each day as it comes, be yourself. The more you look for something the least lightly you're going to find it and also if your virginity is really bothering you and you feel that you'll never get a girlfreind soon then I suggest you go to a brothel and pick up a prostitute. I'm NOT saying you should, it's just a suggestion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2007): Just wanted to add a female perspective to this. I think you should know that even women in their twenties who aren't thinking about marriage right now don't all necessarily feel that sex is needed to keep a relationship going. Your stance on sex is something that many women find sweet, a sign of strength of character, and a huge load of pressure off of them, if they're honest. But that's not really something that's going to come up on a first date-- if you haven't been on a single date, you probably haven't asked many girls out, which seems more likely to be the reason that you're still single than your viginity. You're not abnormal because you haven't had sex. There are many more virgins in their twenties than you'd think, and they are _not_ all unhappy or unfulfilled. If you want to experience love, get married, and have kids, the first step isn't getting laid, it's talking to lots and lots of women and finding the ones you're comfortable with and attracted to. And then asking them out.
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (11 February 2007):
 Ok... the 23 year old virgin seems pretty unhappy! Nice guys dont finish last, thats just BS. You left out quite a bit of info. Are you aiming for women around your age? Cos if you are, then I can tell you that most of them are probably not thinking of marriage right now. And things being how they are, sex is needed to keep the relationship going. A lot of them wont stick around in the relationship and then you wont be able to show them what kind of guy you are (unless you find someone who shares a similar outlook as you but unfortunately, they've become rare!). You already know what your problem is so you must know the solution too. One final thing though, women are way more complex than that (nice guy thing)! :-P
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2007): Unfortunately nice guys finish last. It's the way of the world. Why do we finish last? Well, nice guys aren't willing to let a door swing shut in the face of the B******s. So hold the door open for all of them and you're left behind. People don't like triers they like winners and the path to hell truly is paved with good intentions. The only way to win at love is to be 100% selfish get what you want by whatever means, lie, cheat and destroy your rivals. If you aren't busy ruining someone else's life someone is busy ruining yours. Just as there are nice guys and bad guys the same goes for girls. Thankfully because the shallow girls are only interested in baser things its easy to meet their requirements, get the look, car and money and hey presto. As for the real sweeties in the world forget it, they've already all got a boyfriend (90% of the time called "Justin" - for some reason) and those few that don't will take 3 and a half lifetimes to break out of their shells. Just take up a hobby like cutting, drugs or alcoholism to pass the time and soon you won't care anymore... Well that's my veiw anyway, Yours sincerely,The 23 year-old Virgin!
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