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41-50,
anonymous
writes:hiii m really desperate and i need ur help...we have been married for 5yrs nw.i am 29 and he is 35 now.but there s somethng wrong with our relationshp .my parents were initialy against this marriage as they found my husband had lied about his personal details...but then i thought it ws not much to worry abt and convinced my parents and went ahead.but my parents still have doubt about his sincereity.he shows a lot of affection to me and takes interest in my matters and always helps me in all my problems...but over these years i have found that many small things he told about his character are not true.another problem is that while we travel i have found him looking at women with suchkeen interest which i had initialy ignored.but nowadays it has increased and he also talks to me about other women in a sexual manner.this has forced me to change my character....i come from a very conservative family and i do love him a lot.but now i have started flirting.please advice me as this is realy upseting our relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): Please do not let doubts come into your relationship. I recently had very difficult time with doubts about my husband. Although I know he wanted to have little bit chnage in life but I came to know and afterwards kept doubting. It ended so badly that he actually registered his name on marriage websites to get married (2nd time). He told me that he has done it and I saw his pic as well. I was really upset but I knew that he is doing it in reaction. Now after a month things are settlled down. I sort of separated myself with him and told his and my family.Things are fine now.
So the summary is you cannot stop him. Just show him cold shoulder. If he asks about chnage in your attitude just let him know what you do not like. Trust me if he is truely yours he will come back to you. Good luck!
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reader, jasmin nisar  +, writes (14 December 2009):
 i really feel 4 u hun to see your husband look at other women in the way he wants them sexually isnt right especially to tell u what he wants 2 do with them, if the thought is there in his mind things could happen when your not around by the sounds of it he warning you. do u want 2 b looking round your shoulder all the time woundering where he is who hes with and most of all what hes doing? i always say u need 3 things in a relationship or a marriage 2 make it work 1,trust 2,love 3,respect if u dont hav either of those then there seems to be no point. you seem like a decent women dont stick around if hes making u change your perspective on the right way of life but what it comes down to in the end is you need to sit down with him and explain 2 him your issue if he refuses 2 lisen or change his ways which IS WRONG then u in your heart know what it is u need to do no1 eles can decide for u but take care and i wish u luck
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