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writes:Sorry if this is graphic but I have always been a little uncomfortable with myself in that area but now I am so self consious about sex!! My "lips" are large, especially the right side and they are a darkish color, like gray/purplish. My now ex boyfriend gave me oral a while back and stopped and asked me what it was and if I always had it. He's 23 and very experienced so the fact that he had asked me that means that not a lot of girls have it. I am so insecure about it now, I am seriously considering getting a labia reduction! I am afraid to ever let another guy do it because he will be turned off. Do a lot of girls have this problem or is it just me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Dear Poster
You have received great answers from Uncle Phil and Dr Pete;
You can PM me for info to a very informative web link; unfortunately I cannot place it here on the site due to the adult content and not advisable with some of the younger readers on the site.
Best wishes and always keep SMILING.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (20 October 2008):
 I've really nothing to add to Uncle Phil and Dr. Pete's comments but as you're feeling insecure perhaps mere volume of male opinion might be helpful. So, here goes, I'm in total agreement with Uncle Phil and Dr. Pete, you do not have a problem, don't even think of surgery and don't pay any attention to what this one (not so experienced) guy thought.
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (20 October 2008):
there's only one answer for this....your boyfriend is clearly in-expeirneced and probably has not seen many women's bodies at all. he is talking aload of rubbish if he has told you he has been with alot of women, because he clearly hasn't.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): I agree with Uncle Phil. Larger labia's are a little more unusual but they are certainly not rare or anything to be ashamed about.Wanting to get surgery for that is like a woman who is 6 foot tall wanting to have the bones on her legs cut down to reduce her height (which some women actually endure!)Your embarrassing episode happened because of your ex-boyfriends inexperience with women's bodies, no matter how experienced he claims he was, it is clear he wasn't!This isn't about anything being wrong with you, it's about him being incredibly insensitive and ignorant about the variety in women's bodies. I think also maybe it is a bit like that some men have "bent" penis' when they are erect. This is not a "common" problem but it is also a totally normal "variety" of penis. Your partner can love and accept your body for what it is, or they can make you feel like there's something wrong and fill you with insecurities. Sounds like it's a good reason he's an ex to me...
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reader, VictoriaK +, writes (20 October 2008):
 I don't know about the labia thing, BUT I have a secret of my own. I have inverted nipples. Now, alot of people would say it's ugly, but it doesnt matter because my bf LOVES them!! He says it makes me unique, kinda like those people with one blue eye and one brown eye. Like me you will go through rough patches with guys believe me, it's not easy. however, you will find a guy that thinks you're BEAUTIFUL!! It took me a long time to find someone that accepts me for who I am, but not all guys out there are assholes!! As for your ex, he's an idiot if he thinks there is ANYTHING wrong with that, it's very common, and lots of girls have it, so there's nothing wrong with YOU, it's the men you're dating!! God gives us one body in our lifetime, embrace it, and LOVE YOURSELF! If you're confident, then other guys around you will see that, and they will be attracted! Guys like a woman that is sexy, and confident.Good Luck, God Bless, and message me ANYTIME I am always willing to help!Victoria~
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2008): Wouldn't this be a very boring world if everyone looked exactly the same? Along with your other attributes, this is something that makes you unique.
As for a labia reduction - don't do it unless it's for a perfectly good medical reason, but I can't think of one. What you have there are known as 'Elephant Ear piss flaps'. The Good Lord designed them to keep a man's nose warm on a cold winters night. Cosmetic surgeons make an absolute fortune from womens' insecurities and will operate whether there's a real need or not.
This so-called 'experienced' ex of your could not have been experienced at all if he had to ask what they were!
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