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writes:Dear Cupidplease help let me know opinion, your experience, view to help me have all the picture.I am white girl form central europe, my parents were always trying to lead my life the way they wanted. Yes I was the best student etc, model, but my first love in my 18 years, because he was a "poet without serious background" was by my family very damaged. With this experience I lost belief in advices of my family. Many years passed away. Then I met my life love, but he has already a child as I found out later on and didnt want to live life with me. I live now in different country and now.... I got probably pregnant with a guy who I know only for 1 month - sexually, that was the reason why we for few times met, with very very strong sensual feelings... he is from Brazil and doesnt have much education, also seems that might have more agressive nature then me. I am already 34, but still didnt build my own life, still want to work in arts and get to know more men, because for certain many years in my life I was like not living. (Years waiting for my love and not cheating.) I think, we would not have same interests with this guy after quite short time, but still now feel love. I dont like the idea of abortion, specially in my age. But it is difficult decision. Please advice or let me know your ancle of view. Your answer will be much much appreciated!!!!! Thank you xxxxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): Keep the child, if you do not believe in abortions. And even so, you are old enough and mature enough to look after a child (I hope you did use protection while having sex though and that this was an accident). Tell the father, but you do not have to be in a relationship with the father. You can be a single mom and still meet other men. At this age, like you said youself, it can be more and more difficult to have children later and you could regret it very much if you gave up on this baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI ll get him know bit more in few days
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (16 February 2010):
My advice is that if the Brazilian guy is still interested in you, why don't you try work things out with him. Perhaps the two of you can discuss how to move forward from here. Everybody has a talent at something, lack of education does not mean lack of talent. What does he do for a living?
As for having your baby; as long as you can support yourself, the important thing is to care for yourself right now. Babies are difficult only for a short time and they grow up so quickly. Even if the Brazilian doesn't want to help you, you can still make it. Whatever you do, don't give up on your dreams. I only got my first degree after 3 children. You might need to put things on hold for a little while, but as soon as you get back on your feet go back to school. Good luck.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (16 February 2010):
 Get to know the Brazilian guy better. If he doesn't want to be in you and your child's life, he's missing out big time in life experience. It's not hard to date again. Most people in their 30s and 40s are parents. It's life and we make mistakes. 40 year old virgins are rare and they freak me out. They must be so neurotic that they couldn't let anybody in their lives. Start living now and never go back.
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