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writes:How do I act, communicate or make things better in my LDR relationship without looking like a jealous, insecured and weak woman?I am currently engaged to my LDR boyfriend and we just found out I am expecting a child on NewYears. I may just be a tad emotional because of my pregnancy so I really want to know how to handle my situation with care. I know my fiance loves me. He has met my family we have planned a wedding this year but no date.I guess lately, I've been craving more attention and I also feel like thing shave begin to change. Everything he was last year is slowly becoming like it's not him anymore. He used to call me and tell me where he is going, who is going to see and whenever he gets back we will chat. Those things I've changed. yesterday was my first Ultra sound. I called to tell him about the baby but I was heading to a meeting so we missed each other. I sent him the U/S photo and his response was "I don't understand this picture" I was furious because he didn't even bother to call me to ask. I told him I wasn't feeling well and will talk to him later and he just didn't even bother to call me all night.Today, he text me to tell me he was going to a friend's welcome baby party. I asked who the friend was. He said "friend" I said "friend don't have a name" he said "when did I start asking him for names"So it's beginning to look like this baby and the wedding plans not moving forward is beginning to weigh me down and I am constantly trying to check on him. Almost like I am suspecting that of all times on our relationship, he is not giving me the attention and just leaving his life.What should I do? There is really nothing I can do to see what he is up to. I have trusted him this whole time but now fear is creeping in me and i want it to end. Should I ignore him and leave him for a while so he will come back to me? Should I accuse him of not been so caring like he used to be? Please help me. I feel like resentment is slowly building up and I am close to blowing off on him. Why is he acting like a MAN? WHy do they change after they GET YOU? He chased me so hard and now I am the one chasing. Please help
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reader, Midnight Shadow  +, writes (19 January 2015):
 I think that you're both going to have to MAKE TIME to talk for a few hours about where this is headed and what you're going to do. This just isn't going to work with a baby involved and parents not living with (or at least close to) each other.
You don't say how old he is, or how long you've been together, but you are both adults and should be rapidly stepping up to being parents because commitments are needed. "Who's living where?" "How will it work with the baby?" "Are you going to keep the baby?" etc.
No more messing about; a face-to-face meeting is needed asap and some plans need to be set in stone and acted upon now.
If he "can't" do that, he's flaking out on you and that's not going to work.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2015): She means that on new years she found out she was pregnant.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (18 January 2015):
 Quick question, what do you mean you will have a baby by NewYears? If you are pregnant now, you will have a baby by October the latest. Can you clarify this?
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