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*unterNightshade
writes:I'm having this strong feeling in my gut but I might be wrong but my boyfriend of nearly five months kept hinting about marriage, adopting kids, living together, etc...I am not 100% sure but I think he's trying to find a way to propose in a funny way. One, I am not sure if I'm ready for that kind of a committed relationship, and two, I'm not even sure if I am taking all those hints right. I need help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2013): He's just fantasizing about the future and sharing his daydreams. You are both very young. You're reading too much into stuff that he's just thinking out loud. It doesn't necessarily have to be with you. He wants to get married and have a family someday. That's it in a nutshell.
You're too serious for your age. Don't over-analyze anything said by a boy. They spout nonsense; girls being more mature, see more into it than he really means.
Just let if go, regardless. You can't marry without parental consent anyway.
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reader, HunterNightshade +, writes (29 March 2013):
HunterNightshade is verified as being by the original poster of the question Whew, thank you. At first I thought he really was going to propose but I now believe it's just him dreaming about our future together. I do not have a problem with him dreaming about it, I do to. Thank you all very much.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 March 2013):
 You are 16/17 and dating 5 months.. you will talk of marriage many times but a true engagement is way in the future honey. Stop looking for things that you don’t want.
He’s just talking and dreaming and that’s normal to think that the person you currently love will be your last…
Hinting is very different from asking and planning.
when my husband and I finally got engaged (I proposed to him at his request) It was well planned, there was a date set for the proposal (February 29th which is a significant date for women to propose) And we had talked about the reasons to get married and why it made sense...
What your boyfriend talks about is dreaming... and hopes... but NOT a proposal.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (29 March 2013):
 An official proposal invovles a ring. Throughout the relationship people suggests things and try to gauge your reaction to it. He doesn't have to be ready for it either. Talking about the future just makes the relationship secure, and it gives it direction and something for you to look forward to. You can always propose an idea but the actual step requires a much longer time to determine if you are right for each other. You can enjoy the present time but there are people who likes it better when they know the fun times are not going to end soon by talking about the future. At 17 you shouldn't be ready for a commitment and family. Some people just like to dream. You have to be more than 25, have a house in order to adopt. Is he that old yet? As long as he is making solid plans and not just talking about an idea, then I would not discourage him.
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