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*amee Lyn
writes:Dear Cupid,I'm dating this boy Christian Bristol and we've been dating for almost 7 months and he's been telling me that he'll see me after he's done getting his truck fixed and he's also told me that he can't wait to see me. I don't know if I'm ready for him to drive all the way to Springtown TX to see me. He and I are pretty shy of seeing each other. What should I do or what should I tell him about how I feel?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2022): just tell him to truth always and than talk about it ... talk about everything ..just never lie
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reader, kenny  +, writes (13 July 2022):
 I think that all you can be is brutally honest and tell him that you are not ready to see him yet, I am sure he will understand.
Its still early days in your relationship, and in all honesty you really know nothing about him at all, only what he has told you online.
You should never do anything that you are uncomfortable with, and you should only see him when you are good and ready.
If you do ever meet him, see him in a public place, and always tell someone where you are going.
As Honeypie says, Be Smart, be SAfe.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (10 July 2022):
 Didnt finish post..
I was always feeling sad and used till I ended things.
The last relationship? He bacame my husband and we have been together for 20 years!! I am still madly in love with him and he seems to be with me. We are very happy together.
All of these relationships we talked for about a year before meeting.
One very short relationship was a disaster. He was in Japan and wanted to come to the US. We talked maybe 3 months before we met. It was almost instant dislike from the moment we met. He was nothIng like he had seemed on phone or webcam and I did not make him happy either. We spent 3 days together and I could not wait for him to leave.
Think carefully be safe, tell others of the plans, do not meet him alone. I always took my sister with me. I would not recommend he stay with you either till you know him! Be safe sweetie. Be smart. Good luck!
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (10 July 2022):
I totally understand your situation. I have been involved in several ldr in my life. I was and still am very intrigued and fascinated by Japanese men and there,were nevwr any in my area so I wound up being in the long distance relationships. You are much younger than I was too, I was in my 40s.
Tell him how you feel. Its perfectly normal to feel uncertain because even if you talk every day and may have shared your innermost thoughts, you dont truly know each other and wont until you spend time together in person. People can be very different online than in person! They let you see what they want you to see. What seems and feels good online could be very different in person!!
I was in 3 ldr. One became mt best friend, and we became roommates for 18 months till he had to return to Japan. One relationship we were friends with benefits but he never cared for me like I did him and I was always feel
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 July 2022):
 If you are not sure if you are ready to see him yet, tell him.
Also, if he is coming to visit he doesn't plan on staying WITH you, does he? If so, I'd alter those plans too. Because what If you two don't click at all?
And remember HE is still a stranger. Even if you have chatted for 7 months online. DO not get in his truck alone. Have someone KNOWING where you are meeting him, what time, a picture of him etc.
Be smart, be safe.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2022): Don't be surprised if he tells you that he has a problems and needs your help before he can come to see her - paying to fix his vehicle or whatever, then all will be well.
If so it is a scam. To entice you to give him money
that he spends on his real girlfriend or wife. I doubt he has any intention of driving all that way to see you.
Just telling you that to make you soften up for when he says it. He can easily get someone much nearer. So can you.
What is the point of someone so far away - it is lunacy.
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