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anonymous
writes:hi would be grateful for any advice. I met a guy a few weeks ago and he told me straight away that he really likes me and i feel the same. he sees to be testing me non stop in various and perculiar ways and i think he could have been hurt in the past but so have i. when i was with him one evening he said again for the second time that he wants to go back to his own country and he seems to want to see my reaction. the first time he said it i got annoyed and said you should have told me because i dont want to get involved with you in that case and get my feelings hurt. he then said he might not go. then the second time i met him he said it again, so this time i never gave him any reaction at all, but i txt him later saying in a calm way that i thought it was best that i kept my distance from him as he had said that he wanted to go back to his country.and i didnt want to get burned and i had already been hurt enough in the past. this time he has not text me back. usually he texts me back after a few days or a week but this time it has gone on a bit longer. i am prepared to walk away even though i do like him alot as i just cant put up with this, im not sure if he may be trying to gain control of me which just wont happen or if he is just testing me again. anyone got any ideas?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (7 May 2010):
So you're said "I'm going to keep my distance and not get involved." which basically means "You are dumped."And now you are wondering why he's not acting like your boyfriend and keeping in touch?????You told him it's over and you don't want to be with him so he's leaving you alone.He wants to go back to his country and that means you can't be with him. This is not control, this is you dumping him and him accepting it.Good Luck!! xx
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reader, arie  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 sweety if it has been over a week then this is definitely control. i think u should move on, but if u wanna stick it out, dont just let this guy be the only guy in ur life, i say keep your options open so if things dont turn out, u always have something to fall back on, if this guy cares about u he should have been called or tried to contact you so evidently he has moved on and yes i do think it was a test also. controlling people do that
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