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writes:I am not a bi or lesbian. I have a bf and we love sex with each other. But I get turned on by female body sometimes. When I was young, me and my cousin sister used to feel each others bodies and it was a real turn on. We never continued it for two long and we both eventually grew up and got boyfriends and having great sex with our own men. In my twenties, once during a sleep over with my cousin sis, I let her feel my body and suck my boobs. She also fingered me to orgasm. I didn't do anything to her since I thought it is cheating on my bf. But I got total satisfaction from the fingering. Time to time I think of this incident and wonder why this happened. I don't have ANY emotional feeling toward women and not even sexual most of the time. But if I see some sexy body of a woman or if I see someone wearing revealing clothes, I get a high. Do I have a problem. Does anyone have similar experience?
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reader, butt2fly  +, writes (14 September 2009):
I am not a bi, or a lesbian either. I have a husband but lately i have been fantacizing about having sex with a female. I really want to know how it feels. I used to play around with my cousin when i was younger to but we grew out of it. Now I dont know what is happening to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2009): I am not a bi or lesbian either. I am married just like you I used to play around with my cousin when i was younger. we both grew out of it. Lately i have benn having this feeling to be with a women. I can actually see my self ging great pleasure to another women I dont know why I am feeling this way.
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reader, LoveIsRough +, writes (12 September 2009):
 Straight people can get turned on by the same sex. It happens to me, and I'm a ruler girl!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2009): lol i get turned on my two lesbians making out with eachother and my boyfreind gets turned on by the fact that i do...its pretty normal...i think..
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): I am an artist and have always enjoyed women's and men's bodies. I have always been aroused by either, and not been too confused, until a girlfriend came onto me. I had a similar experience, like you describe. I don't consider myself bi or a lesbian, I am happily married. I guess I would say you are what you feel you are. The "ability" to be aroused by a man, a woman, a feather, water... is more what is going on in your mind. I began to be confused, because my friend was someone I care quite a bit about, but I do recognise a difference. A man can have a connection to me in a way that can't compete, even if he never touches me. Is that like you?
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (21 November 2008):
 You sound normal to me!
Human sexuality is too broad and vigorous to be boxed into the now common "straight, gay, bi" pigeonholes. This is especially problematic when people have a physical attraction to the same sex but are not emotionally involved. You enjoy sexual relations with a woman but you can't see yourself "loving" her. It's not strange. The only problem is that it goes against our conditioning to "fall in (sexual) love", and it makes it hard to pigeonhole yourself according to society's norms.
Society says: "If you are straight, you want to fall in love and have sexual relations with a person of the opposite sex. If you are gay, you want to fall in love and have sexual relations with a person of the same sex. If you are bi, you want to fall in love and have sexual relations with persons of both sexes." And you're a living example of why this simple classification is so stupid.
You are sure to have someone come on and advise you: "You're bi. Just accept it. And anyway, there's nothing wrong with it, it's cool."
You have no reason to stick the "bi" label on yourself if you don't want to. It will only lead to confusion, anyway, because you'll think: "Well, I'm sexually attracted to women, so I guess that makes me bi... On the other hand, I'm not interested in having love affairs, emotional commitments, etc. with women, I'm happy with my man, so I guess I'm really straight... OMG, what am I?"
Forget the confusion. Just be yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2008): lol! XD I thought I was all alone! Not that I've ever actually done/ or have had that sort of thing done to me by another woman, but it is such a turn on.
There is nothing wrong with you at all. I'm worried about what you've done with your cousin sis, but if you feel fine with it, I guess it's okay.
People get turned on by different things, I bet you if you tell your bf, he'd jump your socks! lol XD
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