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writes:Let me tell you by ive been married for bout nine months....but before me and my husband got married.. i was previously engaged to my ex and dated him for four years before we split... weve been split up for two years and through those two years he would run in and out of my head.. constantly. And i tried to ignore it and move on.. and forget.. and i didnt know if it was because i didnt have closure or if i was still in love with him... he is my first love... long story short.. i moved back to where they both live (my husband and my ex).. and i ended up marrying the one person i thought was perfect but come to find out he has previously put his hands on me... and he threatens me... trys to control me... and when we married i almost left him for putting his hands on me four montys in our marriage....so secretly i got in touch with my ex and asked for him to meet up so i can talk to him.. and told him im still in love with him...and always been in love with him... we are now seeing each other secretly.. everyday... and i love the feelings he gives me.. and i love being with him.. we are having our ups and downs.. cause the whole trust and hurt thing through our split... but thats a givin.. we only split cause i moved away to start my career.. and we drifted apart.. i am confussed.. im sooo in love with my ex but i shouldnt feel but do the need of the security of my husband to take care of me cause im in a job transition... what should i do? Who should i choose? Help please.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (17 October 2010):
 Sadly, after 46 years of marraige, i still haven't stopped thinking about my first tru love..it never goes away!
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reader, soinlovededra +, writes (17 October 2010):
I think you should be with your ex. That seems to be where your heart is. why miss out on any more time away from him. as far as things go if your husband is abusive, abusive relationships only tend to get worse. so escapd them quickly as possible. im guessing the love you have for your ex is stronger than the love for your husband if any. Your first love is something special and if you truly feel the way you do about your ex just follow your heart. (: be sure to break things off with your husband though, rather sooner than later aye ?
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