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female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:7 years ago, my love walked away from me. He said he couldn't be the perfect man for me. He wasn't the first guy I'd dated - he was just the first guy who didn't hurt me. I had been raped 3 times before I'd met him. He was different and I fell head-over-heals in love with him. Then one day, he left an email saying that he was walking away. I never really understood totally, but I respected his decision. I was hurt. I didn't date again until 2 years later and again I was raped. People asked why was I raped so many times. I don't use this as an excuse, but I am a bit mentally challenged and I have Parkinston's disease and it is hard for me to control myself. I had become afraid of men. Then one day, I was introduced to a guy and we got to know each other. We ended up getting married and we have 2 children, but I'm still in love with this guy from 7 years ago. We have no contact with each other and he never said he was sorry for leaving me. I need closure from him, but I don't know how to do that. Help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, cd206  +, writes (28 April 2007):
 You never got any closure on your old relationship but frankly it's too late now. Our first loves have a lasting impression on us through our lives but for the sake of your husband and your children you owe it to them and yourself to make your marriage work. You chose this man and this life and it's time to accept it as the reality it is now.
CD
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