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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am married without kids and he is single as I know of. met this person 3 yeas back. We met through an undesirable formal environment and I never liked him in the beginning. But gradually I began to like him and respect him and now I admire him. Say (fictitious) he works in a bank where I have a huge debt to repay. I go there frequently for some reason or another and we began to have a friendly relation.Sinc the last 7-8 months we text each other regularly and sometimes quite a lot. We don’t flirt around or anything shameful but share some light talk. He knows that I am married and have met my husband and my husband in turn knows that we get on well. I know very little about this guy but is a thorough gentleman. He opens up a bit about his family but just enough. He is very helpful, free and sweet with me and has told me to text him whenever I like. Its like he has vowed to reply and in his busiest times. I know that he likes me and thats why he is friendly with me. I have seen his face light up with a smile when he sees me with a hidden smile and his eyes circle my face, eyes and lips a lot. But nothing more. hats not enough to think he has invested much feelings in this. But I really like him and shamefully keep thinking of him.I have no idea why he texts so much and its me who initiates it. I don’t know why I text!! I know I am infatuated. I wouldn’t act upon it. But why does he text me so much? Just a passtime or doyou think he has feelings which he himself is not aware of?His behaviour is consisent except for this once. It so happened that I went to the bank with my husband and he was walking towards us with a friend. He ignored us totally and his surprised friend looked up at him. Then aterwards he again he ignored me when I was with my friend and then retraced hs steps to talk to me. That was the first time when I felt there was something amiss.This is not anything unsolvable. I know that! But do I need to worry about him? I like to believe he is not in to me though my heart says he is...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (13 February 2011):
 Ok if I am going to be honest with you it does sound like he cares about you very much, but in saying that he may just see you as a close friend and that is why he is texting you, am afraid it is really hard to tell in this situation. Its a good thing he hasnt said anything sexual that shows that no matter how he feels he is showing that he understands that you are married.
I think you need to ask yourself can you handle just being friends with him, if you have feelings for him you may end up being torn apart in side. Maybe it would be best to talk to him straight out and ask him what he sees you as and explain to him how you feel but also tell him you would never be unfaithful to your husband just so he knows. Goodluck hunny.
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