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writes:I am 38 years old and from the minute I met this man who is 55 I felt a connection. My friend introduced me to him when we went to see him play. He plays Irish music which I didn't even like when I met him so I know it is not a crazed fan kind of feeling. It feels more like a magnetic pull since he is not even the type of guy I usually go for. I feel like I can't get my mind off of him even though I have tried. When I met him he was married and he now is divorced and has a girlfriend so I of course have never told him my feelings but feel that he may have feelings for me. He will stay away from me the majority of the time when I am with other people but when I am alone or if I was with people and they leave he comes right over to me. I even tested this theory. He has held my hand a few times, hugs me every time he sees me and will often kiss me on the cheek or give me a peck on the lips. When he is talking to me he will often times touch my arm or my hand. He also pokes me in the sides when he walks by sometimes. He has asked me to slow dance with him a few times. He has something bad to say about any guy he sees me with and if I am talking to a guy at the bar he will come over to us during his break from playing and stand between me and the guy or if he can't do that he will stand behind us. I have dated a few guys during the time I've known him but still can't get rid of the nagging on my heart. Since it seems to be going nowhere I will probably try to stop going to see him play because I often go home and cry myself to sleep. It's like torture to love someone this much and keep it secret especially when I think he could feel the same way. Finally my question is, what should I do? Do you think he has any feelings for me? Should I say anything to him? I don't know if this matters but we both have the sign - Taurus.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): From what you've written he is into you too but you show only a vague reason for why you are attracted to him. It may be that you are attracted to him because he was smitten with you the moment he saw you and you are responding to that by becoming attracted to him. You wrote that he is not your type and you never fancied the music he plays before you met.I find the bit about his apparent jealousy somewhat troubling. Could he be a control freak?
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reader, Mis.Natalie +, writes (11 November 2009):
 Dear Friend
Well quiet a story you got there Obviously the man wants you because that’s to much flirting for the eyes to see Any one that reads this can say the same thing I mean why get between you and a guy in the bar when he can sit on the side of you? Yeah he wants something with you . And well the best Advise I can give you is that You Need to tell him how you fell it is not right to cry for a Man if he doesn’t know that you love him and how you fell about him!. Why hurt so much ? Maybe things well be different if you come out to him? It provably would be bad but hey there’s a chance it well come out good what do you have to lose? Do something about this love of yours Go out and express your feelings its not good to keep them bottled in !
And in the turn out if it all goes sour hey at least you tried and now you can move on to the next ! Why be in love with a person that doesn’t appreciate your feelings? Honey Do it ! GET OFF THAT CHAIR AND MAKE THAT CALL! Better yet tell him in person! Greatest luck Hope to hear the out come!!- Love Natalie
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reader, Gigio  +, writes (11 November 2009):
I think that he is been nice to you because he senses that you love him. In a way, he wants to show appreciation for the love that you are devoting to him. Of course, he may feel a little jealous if someone else tries to come close to you. However, this does not mean that he has feelings for you in a romantic way.
You could tell him about your feelings in a very matter of facts way without expecting anything from him then just wait for a while to see what happens next.
And don't forget about the girlfriend. If he is still with her after you tell him about your feelings I think it is better if you leave him alone.
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