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female
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41-50,
*ittylock
writes:i am a mother of 2. but for the past 3 years i still live with my kids father home because of financial problems to get my own place. i work very hard but to rent and take care of two kids is difficult... so am saving to get my own place.... about 9 months ago i meant john doe.... he was nice telling that he is the one for me and he would help get a better life...we had a strong sexual relationship... it was amazing... he was good looking, he buys me nice things and take me out to nice places... i mean no one else never done that for me... i was in love with this guy.. i believed he was the one... but i got pregnant... he panicked and i had an abortion... he hurt so much that i became depressed.. he said he dont want any kids and his mother would die if she knows my life...i was hurt,, but still stupid and obsessed i continued loving him with a nag i must admit.. accussing him of being with other women.. i started to feel insecure when we are not togeher but when we are together we are so in love and so into each other.... when i cry he cries.... when i dont answer his calls or unable to see him... he hurts... which makes me confuse to why we dont spend more time together... its not like if my kids father bother us.. i am free to do anything i want..but john do says he is to busy and have to study and go to the gym regular to look good for me... which donts even bother me how he looks... i try to make it work... all of a sudden he wants a break and his freedom.... when i need him the most..i only see him an average of twice a week for 3 hours... whats wrong.. its hurting me.. i jus so fed up being in the wrong relationships.. so far he is the best and i want him.. am scared that the break would be the end and i wont recover from it...help... am 10 secs away from losing my self. how could we say breaking up is not an option and we wants a break
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): I'm surprised no one (while I'm writing this anyway) as replied to it.
I really feel for you. Whatever a situation is, however it affects the person is important. This is obviously affecting you.
I can only stress that in my personal opinion, breaks are totally healthy in cases. They make people realize how much you love them.
This break seems to be leading down the wrong path however. I strongly suggest you talk to him. I can't say what to do or say or how to say it etc etc etc but you need to take a hold, and just say that you need him.
Of course if he doesn't want this, you can't force someone to like you. Thats a different problem entirely.
We can be your support. I know its not the same thing I really do, but this relationship is going down the wrong path...
*hugglieee*
Just...have a go at talking to him. Keep us posted so we, and I, could try and help you more...
Sorry I couldn't be of more help,,
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