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writes:Man, I don't know what to do.There was a girl I had feelings for, for a long time. About 5 years. All through high school. To be honest she's the only girl I've really been interested in. It's not to say I haven't seen other girls but none of them could take my attention away from this one girl.We were fairly immature and well, the relationship we had was a little destructive, had arguments and stuff a lot, but we both got over them quite fast. She was beautiful but a little spoilt, but a bit of a loner.One time we had a 2 weekish break from talking and when we started talking again she had a bf, she said she just said he was her bf because it made life simpler. Then after a while, he asked her to marry him and she said yes, although I have a suspicion it was mostly for appearances and such but I can never be sure. And I was sure we had something, but I could've been mistaken. We were very close, she constantly talked about having children, saving up with a house with me and such and I don't know what went wrong.Safe to say I'm a little messed up over this, they've been married since december last year, and I'm starting to have dreams about her again and I don't know what I should do. Constantly longing for her and such, we ... don't talk anymore because of the marriage thing. What should I do?Today is her birthday...
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reader, JayLovesSam  +, writes (2 August 2010):
 Get out and meet some women!!! have some fun!! get some new clothes, make yourself feel good, watch the women love the new year and you will meet someone :) best way to get over someone is to go out, make new friends and raise your self esteem!
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reader, rossacelt +, writes (1 August 2010):
Mate i really hope you can get over this girl.I want to say to you move on but you are like myself and it isnt as simple as that.Never let anyone tell you are sad or lonely because of the way you feel though,your human and the girl touched your heart,I just hope you can find the peace you deserve.
best of luck bud
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionShe said she felt she made too many mistakes to fix our relationship, which sounded a bit weird to me... It wasn't our first argument and was one of many over ... 3 yearsish, I mean I was getting sick of it, so was she I guess. We argued over the stupidest things but that didn't stop me from loving her. I was the one that walked away, I said if she's made her choice then I'll respect it but also said I didn't like it.
She seems happy with him though I guess. Doesn't mean I don't love her and doesn't mean it doesn't hurt though, which kinda sucks..
All that crap about "If you really love someone you'd let them go" honestly doesn't work, maybe if you're 100% self sacrifical but seriously, knowing she's happy with another guy doesn't really make me feel any better
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (1 August 2010):
Send her a birthday card or a text message or something. Maybe you cant stop thinking about her because things were left hanging with you two.As she is married i would say that you should try to forget her but it sounds like you have not been able to. If she is about your age then she is still really young and can always change her mind if she doesnt love him. But perhaps she does love him...and not you. There must have been some reason why she married him and why she got with him when you and her were only on a break/not talking. In one sense you should back off and just move on with your life but surely it wouldnt hurt to talk to her so you can figure things out in your own head.
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