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writes:Hello everyone in dearcupid. I have a situation I would like some advice. I am due to be married soon me and my fiance have been together 5 years and we have been living together only for 2 years I love my husband so much I call him my husband already even though we're not officially married ye.t I am 24 years old and he is 23 years old so we are fairly Young but we have gone through a lot we live together we have bills we work we have jobs my husband works a lot a lot more than me I have two jobs one of them is a full-time the other is a part-time I can choose my days and hours for my part time but my husband work various different hours in different days but for sure weekend Friday Saturday and Sunday he works from 9 a.m. to 12 a.m. I hardly get to see him weekends he wakes up goes to work he comes home he goes to sleep weekdays we do not see each other much either because when I go into work he is at home or he waits for me in his car when I get out of work he goes into work I will either wait for him to get out of work and then we'll go home or I will drive home and then go back and pick him up we only have one car we live alone and now after describing and giving use an insight into my life. my issue or problem is I am a very lonely person I only have my husband in my life and he works a lot so when I am home alone without him my mind and my heart are being shattered I don't know what to do anything I do is not satisfying I become very depressed as soon as he leaves because I know I have all day to be alone without him we share a car we only have one car we have had a really hard time we have had so many problems with cars he had a car it broke down we bought another car it broke down we finally got me a car and they broke my window the old car he had they slashed his tires and then finally my car that was my first car I have ever had they crashed it when it was parked the car was totaled so we couldn't drive it we managed to scrape up some money and borrow some money and we got a new car unfortunately I have only been driving that car for two weeks and the axle broke another car we cannot drive right now any ways to tie this all then he goes to work and he takes the new car we bought which is under both of our names and I get stuck at home I always would like to keep the car so I can drive and go shopping or just go somewhere and Window Shop walk around just be out of the house because being in the house is more depressing. I lost I don't have a car I get stuck at home I have no friends I have no family all I have is my husband and my pets I have a dog to cats and three Turtles my home is beautifully filled with loving pets and a husband but when he's gone it feels so lonely everybody misses him even the pets I am asking what can I do how can I be okay whenever he's gone what mentality should I have so I don't get depressed that I'm alone and he's gone. what should I do to keep busy and entertained so far I watched shows that keeps me very entertained but as soon as it buffers or I can't play it I get so depressed I start thinking and etcetera things I can do have to be free or close by because we don't have any money to spare I have tried making friends online in person but apparently I am not a catch people don't find me interesting enough to keep a conversation going or to see me another day. I am a very shy person I'm kind I like helping people I love animals I'm friendly but quiet I am a very simple person I just like to walk have talks knit crochet read simple innocent stuff I don't like to party I don't like to drink I don't like to smoke not cigarettes or marijuana. I am also very depressed when I'm alone because I don't have any friends I just need an idea of what I can do in general and also what I should think how am I ideas the mentality should be so I'm not sad when I'm alone so I'd like to have some advice some ideas given to me as to what I can do. please be kind and nice and your replies there is no need to sacral mean things if you do not like what I write if I messed up in some grammar or you don't like what year reading please just don't comment don't write anything I'm just asking for an opinion and some advice please be kind with your opinion you may say the honest truth but just politely please I welcome your advice thank you
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (19 December 2017):
 You cannot rely on your Husband for company all the time it is not healthy for you both. You need to make a life for yourself as well. It is good to see that you work at least you are not home alone all the time. I would suggest trying new hobbies though. Do you walk the dog? Is there nobody else that you work with that you can become friends with? Or try new activities. There must be sports or social clubs near you where you can meet new people. Have you got public transport available? If you are feeling depressed about being alone a lot why not volunteer at a homeless shelter? It might open your eyes to how it feels to be truly alone in the world with nothing. There are lots off things you can do, charity work, sports, dancing clubs, painting, voluntary work, a college course, read books.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2017): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHa ha thabk you BrownWolf. I like your idea . i had actually only done that like twice then just forgot u got me thibking i should try more to please him cuz he work long hours hes tired amd exhausted i should make him feel more wanted etc cuz dedinatly dont want him getting distant in that sense. There is some problem when he gets home am usually asleep already he gets home from 11pm to 1 m in the morning bummer but amma stau up every now and then and have some fun with him lol
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (12 December 2017):
I get where you are coming from...hard to deal with...yes...but not impossible.
You let your mind wonder off to areas of depression, loneliness, and boredom... why?
You could be thinking of some fun (hint hint) stuff to do to your hubby when he gets home.
How much fun would it be when walks in the house and you are ready to pounce in your little sexy outfit. What a good sleep he would have.
Then you can think up something else for the next night.
See where I am going?? Use your mind to make yourself and your relationship stronger...not weaker.
You can spend all day thinking of ways to please him, that by the time he gets home you are ready to explode, and him with you.
Take some online courses. Upgrade your skills. Is there anything you ever want to learn?
Get some ladies around you and go for walks, or if you have a dog, longer walks.
Just because you are stuck alone, does not mean your brain has to be stuck too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2017): Well, love I will also say painting and walking maybe going on YouTube to watch makeup videos...etc well I’m only saying this because I was you once I started working at a retail store and I promise you I was so shy.. it honestly brought me out of my bubble... I then started going to church I then also started school... I mean there’s a lot you can do... but keeping yourself busy even if it means you have to take the bus to a part time job or walk.... you’ll be okay I promise it just takes time :)
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