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writes:I went through a bad breakup because of my infidelity...I made mistakes and ultimately paid for it by losing someone I loved...she started dating a guy immediately after breaking up with me. I had a long recovery period from this and can finally say I'm OK, although i do think about her all the time, but have cut off all communication.Since then I've been learning from the mistakes I've made, and fully aware that I'm not yet ready to be single, although I have been loosely dating...I've met a lot of great girls but anytime they begin to get close I tend to shy away and get lazy with my communication with them...After my relationship ended, and I began to get my confidence back and get back out there, my whole mentality of dating and relationships has changed...I used to idolize being in a relationship, and I truly enjoyed being in a relationship, however nowadays I feel like this desire to be in a deep relationship with someone isn't as strong, and I almost just view women as a thing that just constantly in flux...they come and go, mostly through my own decision...I'm just wondering, is this normal? It's a strange feeling going from being so desperate to being in a relationship and loved being in one to going to not wanting one at all, the whole relationship thing seems too tiring and I feel lazy when it comes to effort, even if the girls I'm seeing are pretty great...is this normal? how long will this last for me?Thanks
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reader, FallenAngel1  +, writes (26 May 2011):
Been going threw da same ting,., tke time to rediscover yourself. Make alot of me time fr urself.and focus on your career. Everything happens for a reason. Dont rush into something where you could end up hurting someone da same way u did..,if u too lazy to love anyone else.start with yourself and wen dat time comes for you to love another it wil be natural.. Take care and good luck
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 May 2011):
 I think it's normal, but I also think it means you aren't quite ready to be serious.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2011): Yeah its normal. It really means you need to take a lot of time alone instead of investing in a whole new relationship. That way when you do get into a relationship you will feel you want to be there and if you really like the person you will want to make it work. So, you wont be lazy, you will put time in to having a healthy relationship. Hope this helps.
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