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writes:My problem is that I desperately want to have a son, and the thought of being pregnant but never having a son terrifies me and its been going on as long as I can remember. People think i'm being silly, or say "we all have preferences", but i've been imagining myself with a son for so long now, i think i'll be really disappointed to have a girl and i don't know how i'll cope.I don't know when it started, but its always been there, even as a child, i played mummies and daddies- and remember saying "mine's a boy!" i've a list of names for my son, but haven't even considered girl's names because i dont want to think about it. I actually have nightmares where i go into labour and somebody shouts "its a girl!" and i'm horrified and i'm holding this baby thinking "i didnt want a daughter..." I have dreams where i swap my baby for a boy in the hospital ward. I've seriously thought about adopting a boy, to get over this and talked about it to my partner. i've heard of cases where a parent wanted a child of a different sex and doesnt have one and i don't want it to happen to me. On my father's deathbed i told him that i'd name my son after him, and i'll be disappointed if i get a girl. i have brothers and mainly male friends and love boys a lot more than girls and i'm pretty tomboyish, and feel like if i had a daughter i would not know what to say or do and we would have nothing in common. My partner says he has no preference and cant understand why i do and my mother is unsympathetic telling me that "people who have preferences shopuldnt have children" but i cant help the way i feel and always have felt. if i talk about having children i find myself saying " my son...". if i eventually had a daughter after one or two sons it would be okay, but i am just terrified that i'm going to end up an unhappy mother of two, maybe three daughters who longs for a son. What on earth can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, x..BabyGirl..x +, writes (13 June 2008):
 Personally, I think you're being quite selfish. You should think yourself lucky that you can conceive. Many people can't have children naturally and it almost ruins their lives, you're lucky that you have two children and you'll have three if you get pregnant again. You should be happy that you've been blessed with a healthy baby.
Read up on it, they think changing certain aspects of your diet and routine can help in conceiving boys.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2008): My best Sugesstion is to adopt a little boy.
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