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writes:i really need helpi meet him in high school as he was my teacher i was 16 and he was 24 we get so closed as he gave me private lessons with my 2 sisters but there was nothing going between us (i mean emmotions) we used to meet only in groups he would only meet me with my friends and his and infront of my parents, we were so closed than others i was bigger (in mind) than those of my age so i can understand him, he used to show that he cares and like me but it was soo limeted, then he moved from my school as a new branch of our scholl was opend and they needed him there, after that we meet but rarly 1 time in two months or something.after two years he had a very bad emmotional period of time (2 months) i think that time he desided he want to get in a relation with a girl as most of his friens did it the time, the very first girl he meet and liked he start a relation with her and he told me the first, and said that he is having a news which he dont know wither i would be happy to hear it or no then he said that he saw a girl and liked her, after a wile 3 months he got engaged with her and gut married after a year, i was contacting with him but in a very strange way, as he used to call me just to say hay and if anything was going, and when i call back he would be so nervouse and make it so short, so i desided that i wont do it a lot, after a year with me he worked near by my hous so he called me many times (once a week) to see me there, but it was secret of cours, but it was so friendly, and when he tried to get closed and be more emmotional with me, then i told him that i think thats rong but he refused and i was so weak to take a decsion by myself, so we continued, then he got a kid (who i really loved soo much although i never meet with her) last summer his wife and kid went in 3 months vacation without him so he wanted to be with me like evry day so am i, we meet alot and he told me that he really want more with me (like sex) and he invited me to his house so many times but i refused as i were afraid (i really know its rong even i want it) after many tries i accepted i went there and he was very good with me we made love but not evry thing (im still vergion) he was afraid about me (if any 1 knows it wont be alright)we did it once again after that but it was the last, as i was afraid that anyone would knows, anyway after that he respect it and never asked again but he show that he really want me.all he say about his wife is that he didnt want her but if divorce her he wont be able to see his kid, because of that i never asked him to leave her. and whenever he complaine about her i defended her, but i really need him more in my life as i cant call him if he is in home, he go to work from 8 to 3 and we meet once a week only, he always say he love me and im his lover and that he cant live without me and i really belive him as he is not that tybe of men, and he really care for me and he love to know that im happy with him or not. last week he said he want to hug and kiss me alot for romance only. he let me know evry details in his life. he always express his future plans with me. what he really hate to hear from me that he dont love me, whenever i said that he got sooo mad. i really dont want to leave him and i wont try it again, im convenced that he is my soulmate. but i cant live with him part time, i want him more in my life what to dooo? help plzi know its sooo long im sorry
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reader, RAVEMORE  +, writes (19 July 2010):
Please do not lose your virginity to a married man!He is not available: He is married.If he really wanted to be with you, he would divorce his wife, THEN and only then, he would start a romantic relationship with you.That's the honorable way of doing things.Please do not put your life on hold for this man. At least, date other guys. Do not pine for him and wait for him.He is not a boyfriend, he is a married man and you are his lover.There is a child involved, and no matter what you think: the well being of this child will be this man's priority. If his wife learns about the affair: she will make him pay , but possibly she will make your young life hell. You seem to have a lot of compassion for the child and this man's family. It makes me think you have a good heart and a conscience: use that to make sure you protect yourself from harm.As the poster below said: there is such thing as parental rights. It's easier for people to divorce nowadays. The only thing is that it could financially be a disaster for him, and that might be why he is such a coward.What he is doing is not right, because he is ruining your romantic life.You probably won't take any of this advice to heart, as you must be madly in love with this man.The best for you would be if you found a wonderful single guy to fall head over heels in love with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): i don't think he wants to be with or leave his wife for you.
obviously, he thinks of you as his mistress, an easy love or fantasy.
when he told that he met a girl and he liked it, he knew that news might upset you, that's mean he had thought that you care, but he didn't consider being with you.
simple advice leave him, and forget all about it.
take care
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reader, anonomous_1  +, writes (19 July 2010):
you might not want to hear this but you need to let him go, he's just taking advantage of and using you. He has a wife and is using the classic i won't be able to see my kids line to keep you wrapped around his finger. He is not leaving his wife because he doesn't want to you're just something extra but when he gets tired of you, or his wife finds out which ever comes first he is going to drop you so fast and you just end up being hurt I know you most likely won't listen to this advice so when he ends this relationship i suggest that you learn from it and never get involved with a married man again because if he really was unhappy with his wife and really wanted to be with you he could leave her and she would not be able to keep his kids from ever seeing him that's illegal he will always have his parental rights
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): He isn't after your brains he wants action. I know that's shitty to hear but it's true. He was your teacher which is wildly innapropriate in which the two of you acted toward eachother. You need to get your head out of the clouds of this fantasy you have in your mind. He doesn't want you he wants his wife. He could divorce her any time he wants for you."He didnt want her but if divorce her he wont be able to see his kid"That is absolutely false. I don't blame you for your ignorance, however in the court of law as a parent of a child you have what is called "parental right." What he actually means by saying that is you aren't important enough for me to leave my wife because then I will have to pay child support. What you are doing with this man is wrong, which you already know image if you were his wife and you had a child with this man and he was doing this to you. Even if you aren't giving him sex other than the times you already have done it you are still his emotional booty call. (this answer has been moderated before publishing)
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