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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well to make a few things clear i am a lesbian, but my spouse is bi sexual...and we are seniors in high school.okay so i really don't know ware to begin. It all started junior year i began to like her. but she was still straight so i keep my mouth shut till she came out as being bi. i then began makeing it obviouse i liked her. So he started dateing a week later, but it ended the next week cause she didnt want to make her friends feel uncomfortible and she wasnt sure if she was ready for a seriouse relationship. Which is a okay with me i just hate playing games. So then like a month a few weeks go by and then she tells me she wants to be friends with benafits. Witch i was k with cause ill be honnest i needed some practice. so that whent on for a month. so i poped the question again if she wanted to date. she said she was ready. So its been 5 months now and i dont know how mutch more i can take! She is constantly hanging all over people,flirting,ignoring me for other people,ignoring me cause shes so into her video game or sooo into her web comics. I love her but god i wish i knew if she loved me back. I always ask and it ends up in her tottaly blowing up and crying and saying i dont trust her etcetcetc. and its just the small things now that get me. like she wont wear jewlery i get her but when this chick [someone she did have a past with] gets her something she wares the jewlery she gets her. Or she'll push me away from her so she can go hug and rub this girl she knows likes her. Or stick her hand up her ex boyfriends shirt and rub his chest. or kiss other chicks on the cheek etcetc! it could go on. So the other day i told her it was over, but she tweaked and said she wanted to work on thigs and she could change but i told her its not fair for her to change just for me but she insisted so we stayed dateing. The next day we had a talk....and it turned out that im overly possesive and jelouse [wich i might be idk??] and that my indifference and anger hurts her....WELL i wouldnt be indifferent or angry if i didn't think she liked everything one 2 leags besides me. She constantly says how mutch she loves me, but never shows it...i think actions speak louder than words and sometimes just love is not enough. like i keep telling myself im overly paranoid,and jelouse to calm down but my guts telling me its not right etc. so...any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2009): She is waisting your time plain and simple. You need to dump her and meet someone who will want to be with you and will show you the love that you deserve.You will find that there are alot of people (girls and guys) who will mean well but wont do well. Trust me I have dated a few. You will only regret staying with her.
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reader, fishdish +, writes (5 December 2009):
 ms. bim bim! she's in highschool, where else are you going to learn what a real relationship is if not by having bad as well as good ones? spouse is clearly her term of affection for her lady! OK, anonymous, i think you DEFINITELY made the right decision, this girl is not ready to really commit herself to just you, you aren't being jealous, you should expect your girl to give you attention and affection and not be hanging all over other boys and girls.i know that there are slim pickings, being a lesbian in high school, but stick to your guns, you can find ladies that will treat you better than this in the future. find someone that values you and loves you for you and not just for the name or street cred it's giving her around school, if you know what i mean.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 December 2009):
 First up, a spouse is a marriage partner, and from your tale of woe, I don't think the protaganist in this story fits that description.
Apart from that, if this story is a wind up it's not a very believable one - and if it isn't well, you need some sort of reality check on what contitutes a relationship and what doesn't.
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