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writes:So here's the deal:I had a best friend and we'll call her "Valerie". Val and i came out to one another. We flirted for a year. I became to develope an insane crush on her, and she only fancied me a little. one night we confessed our feelings for one another. I told her how badly i liked her and wanted to date and she wanted to too. We fooled around a little, but she was so scared of people finding out about us because it isn't considered "normal". Over the course of the next two years i fell madly in love with her as she let me fondle and kiss her, yet she wouldnt let us date. She started pulling and pushing away more. Soon when i had given up hope all together she suprised me and told me she was ready to be out with me. So i asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. after years of being in love with valerie she finally said yes! Then she became very jelous of other girls i was with, thinking it was more than friendship because she thinks i'm a "player" in girl form. Finally, fed up with the jelousy and drama i gave in to one of the girls who wanted me and fooled around to a great extent. Feeling guilty, i told her the next day and later that week she broke it off with us. Ever since then i tell her i'm in love with her. she says she loves me too but still can't be with me. She's currently boy crazy and is always pushing me away when i try to be affectionate with her. Now we are only fourteen going on fifteen and we're still best friends. I know i should be lucky we're best friends but she drives me mad with passion. I want her more than anything and she knows it. Finally, What should I do?
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reader, Miggy  +, writes (21 December 2007):
maybe you should just start again?
I think shes not helping you much tbh..shes obv messed up about her ex and stuff..so maybe you should just take a break from her?
she might just need some time to sort out her head.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUPDATE!so here is what she said to me last night."it hurts because you hurt me. And I don't know if you really love me, I mean I think you do. but what you did sucked. and I know it was the past and a mistake. but isn't a lot of things? should I just forget everything everyone's done? I love you, I care. and yes, I do care about what other people say. but I love you. And right now. I'm so confused. I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend and I've been telling him things and talking on the phone with him. I just can't give up on him. I think it's like you with me. except, I messed up more with him, and he doesn't love me at all anymore. I do still love you, and want to cuddle and hold you."
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reader, Miggy +, writes (20 December 2007):
I think you need to sit down and talk with her.
explain how you feel, why you cheated on her and how sorry you are.
but also make sure she knows you appreciate it if she doesnt want to go out with you because i think this may make her think of you better.
Also, give it some time, your only 14, you have plenty of time to go out with her, maybe just not yet.
hope this helps.
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