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writes:well lets see, my head is filled with negative thoughts about relationships even though im in a wonderful relationship. I constantly ask myself, "what if we break up? "what if i fall inlove with someone else a need top break up? what if we get married one day and we get divirced and then i figure out that he was the love of my life and that it was a mistake?what if i dont love him enough?how will i know if im happier single? these kind of things prey on my mind constantly, they make me feel awful and i get anxiety and its making it impossible to enjoy my relationship, its rediculouse!!! please help, advice is much needed i cant take this anymore. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): hello, i posted the 'im confused about these texts, what do you think'
i was the same. always negative, but my boyfriend made me be negative cos he gave me reason to worry.
im longing for advice myself and for someone to tell me it will all be ok. but that wont happen.
all i can say to you is, cherish what youve got, cos things can change over night so quickly.
you could be run over by a bus or your boyfriend could go off you like mine has with me.... and all that negative thinking will be such a waste of time. dont be negative, you cant control your life, so if all is so wonderful, enjoy it, because life is too short. there are children dying out there, no water in africa... be happy, you have so much to be happy about...
get a book out the library on it.. you will be suprised how much better you feel....
ey, its so easy to give advice, wish i could take my own...
xxx
good luck and please be happy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2007): I have had this problem quite bad early on in my relationship too the point where I wanted my own space quite a lot.
One day I was feeling low and depressed for no reason at all and my girlfriend was giving me grief over it and thinking things such as 'Is he going too leave me' and asking me if I am having doubts. She eventually cried and I felt bad for feeling this way.
The next thing I was curious as too whether, I was going off her or not and I started too have doubts. And these doubts gave me anxieties just like yours. They lasted 8 months then one day they vanished. From time too time I look back on the time and I get irritated by my girlfriends behaviour and the doubts come back that I thought I was feeling when my girlfriend cried.
I sometimes think 'Do I love her enough?' do I 'Love her as much as she loves me' but as the relationship has grown on I have not thought into it as much and enjoy myself with her and don't take things so seriously.
So what Im trying too say is, have people been giving you negative thoughts about your relationship or relationships in general? Are you're friends jelous? Hve you being reading too deeply into stuff and these anxieties have been bought on yourself? If so this could be the answer too why you're feeling like this.
Don't worry it will pass...
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