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writes:I've been living with someone for about 1 year, and dating for 2 years prior. This man continues to lie to me, to my face, until I hound him to tell the truth. It has been a series of different events, small and large lies, but constant none the less. Tonight I get home and he made a large purchase that I found, which was not discussed with me, and he is trying to hide it. I'm pretty naive, so I'm sure I haven't caught him in all of his fibs. My concern is, should I stay with someone that is not totally upfront with me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): I think all of us have met someone in our lifes who's a compulsive liar, someone who just can't stop telling lies! I always wondered what it be like to go out with someone like that, the reason I think they do it is low self confidence, it makes them seem more exciting.
At this point the lies properly just slip from his mouth. You should have a talk with him and suggest him getting help, that's the only way to get round it. If he dosen't then leave, this man will never change unless he get's help. If He's like the people I known in my life who lied all the time
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2008): I have a friend that is in a VERY similar situation right now. I would have to say that if this guy isn't being up front about things, there's a reason for it. Weather he's just a pathological liar or just sneaky, its probably NOT going to change any time soon. Perhaps at this stage in life he is used to having some things private and doesn't want to give away that "secret" part of his life. Some guys just like to keep things to themselves and dont know how to react when someone tries to invade that "personal" space.
The situation with my friend I believe stems from something a little different, and perhaps it applies here as well. Do you give him any reason to lie? For example, if he told you the outright truth, would you flip out and get into a fight about it? If so, perhaps the lies are more of a defensive mechanism to "keep the peace". If the answer is TRUTHFULLY "NO", then perhaps it's time to look elsewhere.
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