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writes:I'm currently in a lesbian relationship with my teacher for 8 months (she's 29 and i'm 18) and im madly in love with her..... I know she's serious about me because she broke up with her bf of 2 years just to be with me.I love her deeply cos she's so sweet my heart could just melt for her! She likes giving me tiny surprises like leaving a chocolate bar on my desk early in the morning before I reach school or pat my shoulder gently when she walked pass me in class during lesson. She has also given me a lot of motivation to study hardActually she has tried breaking up with me for more than 10 times because she felt guilty, but we always patched up because I begged her to. I told her I can't afford to lose her..... she said she's afraid of losing me tooLast november on her birthday, I stayed over at her place. We showered together and nearly had sex but she stopped. I wasnt angry but I just couldnt understand her. She said she didnt wanna do it because she loves me, and I never knew what she meantLast week, I went to her place again. We got really intimate and had sex. She's amazingly good and we enjoyed ourselves very much. The thing now is, after that night she got more paranoid that the school would find out about us and she plans to resign so that we can be with each other without having to fear everyday. Now it's my turn feelin guilty because she's going to give up her passion for me..I dont know if she'd still go back to school after I graduate, but I feel like I'm kinda hindering her in her career. I love her deeply and I dont wanna lose her.. what should I do?
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reader, GMWolfman  +, writes (7 April 2009):
tbh i cant see nothing wrong with the relationship its just like a Police Officer (male high) dating another police officer (female) i was in a school where 2 teachers were dating, and i knew about it, but yh i dont see nothing wrong in that nor do i see a career as a problem for this, it should be ya inner feelings not something ya toss around, it seems that people are upsetting ya, no one made the fire/police/hospital without learning from someone higher than yourself.....sometimes people end up in love with their teachers, i dont mind, nor should anyone else, its a natural thing for people to fall in love or am i missing a point ther? (dont answer my question ;P)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): Just try and wait until you are out of school, and then you will have the all clear to carry on your relationship! Don't let her quit her job, but don't get her into trouble at the same time. Hope everything goes well for you :-) xx
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reader, D6491 +, writes (9 September 2008):
I have a funny story that will probably help lighten the mood. I met this wonderful woman in my school, and she asked me for my name and what grade i was in. I told her my name and that i am a senior. she was new to this school, and asked me to help her find a specific classroom.so i took her there, but she was at the wrong room lol. so we got to know each other in a span of 20 mins.she told me that she was gay, and was single. i dont know if that was a sign as if she was attracted to me. but i coulndt stop staring at how beautiful she was. so i admitted to her that i was bisexual. so as we went to the right room, it turns out that she is my teacher's teaching assistant.[GASP]...i was so excited, but ever since then, we were actually close and bonded for the last couple wks. its funny how she even knows my name, and not the class lol. until currently last wk, she invited me to a family party, and she insisted that i go with her and nothing will happen, because she isnt a teacher and there is no harm. i i decided to going, and she was pretty tired and was a little naucious, and i had no idea where she lived at, but she eventually told me. i didnt want to leave her by herself, god forbide anything was to happen to on her way home. so it turns out that i took her to her home, and we were well acquainted. she wasnt that sick, because we ended up talking the whole night, about crazy things we've done in the past or even think about the future. Until she told me that she felt just right, and was so deeply attracted to me. ironically she put her head on my chest, and we both laid there in each other's arms. she finally kissed me, and it didnt occur to me that she had made a move, but i went along with because i had fallen for her. we started to makeout passionately, and had sex the same night.it was absolutely amazing! it turns out we spent the night together in her place, and felt so committed to each other. I felt as if this wasnt real, and that this was a fantasy. but it was definitely real! she didnt want to become a teacher at that point because she fell in love with me and decided to go for another career in a different field. She's now my girlfriend. at times, you cant really regret what you guys did, because at the end it is truly worth the fight, because now you can be a happy couple like me and my girlfriend.So dont regret it sweetie!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2008): Be glad that I'm not a member of the FBI, or your teacher would be facing charges withing a short time.
As a former teacher, I am apalled that your teacher allowed the relationship to go this far. Lesbian or not, love or not, what she did is a felony in nearly every state in this country. It is entirely inappropriate and illegal for a teacher to have sexual relations with a student. That was one of the first things we learned--and from what I've been seeing on the net, one of the first thing forgotten, unfortunately. I had several students who tried to use sex to get better grades or get out of absences, and there were plenty of opportunities to take advantage of it and get away with it. At one time I even developed feelings for a student in my class. Still, I was smart and strong-willed enough to back away from anything inappropriate.
Now, there is NOTHING inappropriate about having a relationship AFTER you are no-longer a student. At that point it is a case of two consenting adults. However, even if you are 18, it is not only wise, the only legal course of action for her to take is to immediately back off and stop the relationship until you have graduated. Even still, there may be some repercussions if someone does find out that you were sleeping with each other prior to graduation. I can think of at least three cases of women being prosecuted in the past year for relationships with female students who are now no-longer students.
Honestly, it was a very foolish thing to do, for both of you. I don't wish anything bad to happen to you, however, know that if something comes out of this and charges are filed, both of you have noone but yourselves to blame.
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reader, Amy2007x +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Put your realtionship on holds for the now, if you both love each other then surely you can wait for each other?
She wont get fired
It wont be seen as unacceptable
Rumours about you cannot be spread about the school whilst your still in it
And overall you wont be paranoid and will enjoy a much happier realtionship so just wait :)
xx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (14 February 2008):
 Surely you two can control yourselves for a few measly months? Look at what's at stake here, sheesh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2008): i don't know what to say but you both like soul mates too me but sit her down and talk and comfort her or maybe u should go to a different school to show how much u luv her.hope this helps gud luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 February 2008):
 The best thing is to put your relationship on hold till you graduate and then resume your relationship again.It is only a temporary measure .
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