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*aisy99999
writes:My boyfriend has history of being a serious player. He has cheated on every one of his previous girlfriends but he says everything is different with me, its been a while and he's been faithful but I still can't completely trust him. I've told him of my issues and he says he completely understands but he loves me etc etc... Should I just trust him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): I can relate to you, my boyfriend have done nothing but played women, I've know him for about 7 months now and we live together I recently found a few womens number in his phone and I contacted a few. He has lied alot in the past to me and I have all reasons why I can't trust him. He says that I'm his world and he loves me alot I make him complete but I really don't know anymore I doubt our relationship, he have proven to be unfaithful. He knows my past and how bad I've been hurt before and now he fears that i will break off our relationship. I am having trouble trusting him now and I don't ever think i'll trust him it's sad but he knows what damage he have caused and now hes dealing with more hurt too! But I was suspicious of him because of his past and he told me i'm different, he have changed and he wants to prove to me that he is different, I started believing in him and I was growing to trust him, But there he goes proving himself to be what he said he wasn't anymore. My advice to you is that every one is different, and it's not good to judge a person based on there pass because people can change but that takes time and I don't mean a few months...you have a right to feel the way you feel but if he haven't given you any reason so far not to trust him then just go with the flow but also I know it's in the back of your mind. Don't accuse him or nag him too much either but you do have a right to ask questions. Be careful he's hard but that's a risk alot of women take some relationships grow and learn but some just go down hill.... Only time will tell, and one thing i know for sure that a person can only be themselves, changing for a few weeks or months doesn't really mean they changed.But speaking from my experience. Good luck and I trully wish you the best!
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reader, bambi.t  +, writes (27 July 2007):
it's simple, he can't just have trust right off da back though. he has 2 earn it, duh! oh, and don't let that phrase "i luv u" get 2 u, becuz my boyfriend says the same thing, yet sumthing tells me he doesn't mean it. so anyway, it's like money, if u want it u got 2 earn it, so let him earn the trust!!!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): I agree with the previous reply, you have got to give him another chance..but warn him of how hard it is to trust him and let him know what you are thinking. good luck
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reader, flower girl +, writes (26 July 2007):
 I can understand your concern if he has always cheated, but like you say he has been faithful to you so far and he say's he loves you, so i think you should give him the benefit of the doubt.
People can change and if we base all of our previous relationship on past ones will would never trust anyone.
Take care.xx.
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reader, rockelle +, writes (26 July 2007):
 I am a firm believer that you should trust someone until they give you a reason not to. Give him a chance, do not ruin a good relationship over his past its not fair to him or you. You could be missing out on a good thing. "Dance like no-ones watching, and love like youve never been hurt."
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reader, Danigurl2012 +, writes (26 July 2007):
I think you should have some of your friends like kinda spy on him for you and like use one of your good looking friends to like flirt with him and see if hes a good boyfriend but make sure he doesnt know that your friend that is gunna do that is your friend .......then he will get suspicious.i kno its kind of harsh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): They do say that once a cheater always a cheater but maybe he's telling the truth that things are different with you. After all he hasn't cheated on you yet (as far as you are aware of anyway) so all i can say that you can do is ignore any niggling feelings that he's cheating on because past is past, no matter how many times it's happened and it hasn't happened with you. You have got to learn to trust him, no matter what. After all, maybe he's learnt his lesson.
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