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*rincessjasmine
writes:I am having trouble having an orgasm with my b/f. It's so annoying because if i watch males stripping on videos, I can orgasm instantly thru masturbation very easily (5 minutes). He even went down on me and though it felt amazing and him touching it felt good too, I just can't orgasm...i reach peeks but it doesn't follow thru, I wanna add we were in a very uncomfy position and he was doing it while my pants were on so it was sometimes hard to get the spot just right. Should i stop masturbating so i crave his touch more. I also wanna stop watching videos of other men, it makes me feel bad that he can't do what i should want only from him. We only do stuff in a car so that could be it too. We dont get completely naked, and that could be a reason, and that i'm not completely comfy and i overthink i have to orgasm cuz he's here...anyways.I just wanted to know what works for you guys. I was trying to think of something that would really give that extra spark, but usually it's just the moment that does the trick, and his penis wasn't really exciting to me this time...so what do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): Do you have to do it in a car? Do you have to do it with cloths on?
Try it in a bed room... Somewhere you're not going to worry about getting caught... Somewhere you can get comfy... relax... strip eachother. You need to relax and take your time.
And if you don't want to watch other men because it majes you feel bad then don't do it.
Good Luck. x
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reader, Kadisha  +, writes (21 June 2008):
After smiles' answer, need i say more? Its very true that concentrating on orgasming will only give you negative results. Do you know what wonders the clit stimulation can do you? Let your bf concentrate on your clitoris, it can really amaze you. One other thing your bf needs to remember is that, girls take time to orgasm and the reason you only reach the peak but not orgasm is because he maybe giving up or stopping at the very same time that he should be putting in more effort. Ask him to take a little more time and be patient. Help him out as well by talking to him about it, don't be afraid to tell him what you want him to do and always tell him to keep doing what feels good to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2008): I suggest you relax; sometimes concentrating on reaching an orgasm, getting all stressed about it; makes it more difficult or impossible; learn to relax, enjoy the stimulation, enjoy the touching; maybe guide your boyfriend; show him how you do it when on your own; guide him as to how you like it most, how much pressure etc.
Good luck and enjoy!
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reader, supermum  +, writes (21 June 2008):
 make sure you take your knickers off, and put a duvet down in the car to help pad it out a bit. you go on top, so that you control depth and speed and touch yourself at the same time. boys find this sexy anyway
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