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writes:I've been a single mother for 10 yrs.And i've been really hurt in the past from other guys. And now I've been seeing this absolutly wonderful guy for 5 mths.We are currently seperated though.Our current problem is that he wants me to talk more with him about everything,(i.e. my feelings towards him and when i'm mad)and that i don't spend enough time with him when he is home (i.e.on weekends when he's not working). I want to be able to do all this for him but i'm scared. I need help before I loose him for good.Can anybody help me PLEASE!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (26 August 2008):
 Well! its a good sign that this guy cares how you think and what you want in life. He sounds like a nice guy.
Nobody can garantee what your future will hold, or if he will hurt you. But if you dont at least try to trust him, you will never know if he could have been the right one for you.
Tell him how you feel, let him know why you are so distant. If he understands you and is willing to take things slower, you could have a very happy future together.
Got my fingers crossed for you X
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 August 2008):
Well you just have to take a breath and talk to him about things.
I know I was terrified of tell my hubbie when he upset me for a long time because when I was with my ex, if I DARED to say I was upset, then it would all end up as my fault until I cried and appologised for about 3 hours.
But you only have to do it once and then it is easy. When you get upset or angry with your boyfriend, just walk out, calm down and then when you've counted to 10 just say "You upset me before when you said I looked fat / kicked the dog / told the kids they were naughty." Say it in a calm voice so he doesn't feel attacked and then he can appologise and give you a hug and together you can learn how to communicate and be the best couple ever.
Good Luck!! xx
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