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41-50,
anonymous
writes:A few months ago my friend introduced me to this guy who worked with her, and we started hanging out and hooking up a lot. He is from Harlem, and not to be racist, i am just trying to describe him, but he's very hood. He says that there is no strings attached, which i was okay with. But then he gets insecure over every guy i even talk to and makes comments about it like, "oh, are u bangin him now?". He is not very affectionate. He doesn't like kissing. He said where he is from, there are 10 guys to every 1 girl so you don't kiss her because you don't know where her mouth has been. I have gotten him to kiss me a few times, but I could tell it made him uncomfortable. He doesn't really show me any affection in public, or alone, doesn't hold my hand, or touch me in any way at all. Which is okay, but I'm not used to it and it makes it hard for me to tell how he feels. And I have brought it up with him and he says it's just the way he is. I am having trouble being able to tell if he cares about me or not. Should I try to continue this, or should I just leave it alone?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2010): You shouldn't worry about weather or not he cares about you, you should be asking yourself "Do I want to be with this guy?" He doesn't seem to have a whole lot to offer in a relationship. Wouldn't you rather improve your lot in life???Find yourself a man that does give you what you need, ie, kisses, kind words, affection.Don't go into this thinking "I can change him, show him a better way, give him the affection he doesn't realize he has been missing out on." His programming is a life's worth of experience and his actions are a manifestation of that. He is not going to change.If you do feel against all odds that you want to be with him, because of some Mother Theresa complex you have, I can't give you an answer to your question with so little information, but my guess is, he can't care for anyone, yet alone you :( He wasn't taught how to care for people.
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