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writes:I have a girlfriend...we have been in a relationship for the past one and a half years...she's everything that I ever wanted and loves me very much...I plan on marrying her when the time is right...we haven't had a full sexual intercourse till now but we usually explore each other...lately I've been masturbating to her thoughts but the weird thing is in my thoughts I always imagine her having sex with another random guy or being sexually harassed... any guy who loves his girlfriend wouldn't even think of such disgusting things but that's what I've been thinking a lot lately...please help me out before its too late...
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (2 March 2012):
 Sounds like you have insecurity problems and feel that your not good enough for her. You feel inadequate to please her sexually, because right now you've probably not had sex. People have all strange kind of fantasies, it's the nature of the mind, you are doing nothing wrong.
What do you mean to late? What do you think is going to happen? When you and your girlfriend decide to make the relationship sexual, or when you two get married. As I said again, it's normal to have strange fantasies, the problem only comes when you want to it into the real world and start harassing your girl to do things she doesn't like. Keep it to yourself, and don't worry so much, the brain likes to worry, so it can obsess about the things that distress you and that makes everything worse.
Try to think of some better fantasies if it bothers you so much. Try to look at the ideas from some romance novels written by women, they will give you a good start.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2012): I often think of my partner with others when I’m alone.. I don’t know why I do but I don’t tell him and I don’t let it bother me as it’s just in my brain…
I don’t WANT him to be with others… it’s just fantasy for expediting my self-pleasure. I love my partner very much and do not want to share him. What I think about him with others does not mean I don’t love him.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (2 March 2012):
Some people do have various and unusal sexual thoughts... I know that I have had them in the past about my partner having sex with another woman. I found it odd too because it would have killed me inside if he really did have sex with someone else - I guess it was just an odd fantasy I had, which is probably the same for you too - don't beat yourself up about it.
However, if I were you, I would just keep it as just that - because if your partner is anything like me, I would question how much my partner really loved me if he wanted me to really have sex with someone else. Call me old fashioned, but if you love someone, you only want sex with that one person and don't want anyone else touching them!
Let it remain just a private fantasy of yours and nothing more!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2012): Seeing your woman with another man is called "cuckolding," and it's a normal and natural fantasy that some men have.
If it bothers you, try to think of other things, but I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's not like you ever have to act it out. Best wishes :)
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 March 2012):
 There is a possibility that you like rough sex, many people do. Replace your thoughts of gentle loving sex with her with a happy smile on your faces. Part of the fun in bed is that sometimes you can have passionate animalistic sex, sometimes you have gentle love making.
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reader, lebro1992 +, writes (2 March 2012):
As rude as this may sound but it could be just that you're sexually frustrated. I don't think there's much you can do to stop these thoughts. Maybe you just need reasurance from her. But do it sensibly, don't go in like a bull in a china shop.
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