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*elpme1234z
writes:Alright Im a 19 year old guy that used to be in this huge relationship with my ex. Her and I used to have sex ALL the time and she used to love it. It was so much love and then we broke up, i never thought i could be with someone else till another girl that really helped me through shit came along. eventually her and i started having sex and i felt like it kind of went from with my ex LOVING it to her not so much. She makes so many noises when i touch her or when i kiss her but when i have sex she doesnt at all or just a little. She has told me to stop before because she said "Its kind of repetitive" meaning i'm not doing my job at all. Her friends been trying to get her into a vibrator and when i felt her yesterday she was kind of looser than before i know that sounds really weird but it was kind of a huge change. I also dont have a big penis so it didnt even feel good. Then she said its the best its ever felt and im like i can hardly feel it. I dont always go fast but I did last night and it just got me so depressed. Im so good at foreplay and shit but i just feel like i cant have sex with her right now because i feel like theres no passion. I cant live up to what i used to live up to with my ex. If she is using toys it shows i fucking suck at sex and seriously i dont know what to do. I know theres no way to get a bigger penis but how the hell did i do it before? I know girls are different but man she makes me feel like shit in the bedroom. Foreplay is key i know and i rock that but when it comes to sex i get so nervous like in my head im like "dont cum, dont cum" and then bam and then i just sit and im just like im getting dressed. Like I dont even want sex that much but like i get so into it and then i look down and im like yeah im not going anywhere soon =\. I want to tell her i dont want sex because it gets me seriously sad. I do the moves where its supposed to feel good for the small penis but its not good for her and if shes using toys theres so way i can beat that shit. I'm about to give up in the bedroom anyway i can cuz this shits rediculous and i dont know what to do =(P.S. Both girls were virgins and i was a virgin with the first one. The 2nd girl was and she was saying how she could last hours with sex and that changed fairly quicky =(.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (16 July 2008):
 i agree..your gf needs to check herself out that was so mean..all she had to say was what you were doing was on the mark but close that you need to try a few things to make it more intensified..it doesnt matter if your big or small you can still get the job done !! speak to her this is a joint effort not just her pleasure its give an take.. aphex
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reader, oxxvickixxo +, writes (16 July 2008):
OH MY GOD... How bad is that!!??
I cant believe your Gf would say shit like that to you!! She is just being so mean!!
I've had a few experiences where I've not enjoyed the sex but I've always tried to adjust to get myself to enjoy by rubbing myself etc.
Your gf should realise that the sex isn't just for her enjoyment!! you should really speak to her regarding this and tell her how you feel.
Have you tried a lot of different positions? If you haven't why not get a copy of the kama sutra and try some of the different things in that?
If your Gf does have a vibrator why not ask to use it together? when my boyfriend didnt really want sex I got one and when he found out he used to love watching me with it and how much pleasure I got from it..
Anyway In my experience, a vibrator might be good but you really cant beat the real thing ;D
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