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*oMeahxo
writes:I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. Im only 19. Its rlly been an on and off kind of relationship and when I was younger I did cheat on himj with others. He knows this and has forgiven me years ago. The past 2 years we have been very strong, and havnt broken up. About a month ago he kissed another girl when he was drunk, out with friends. I was completely devestated but I figured it was only a kiss and He had forgiven me so I am trying to forgive him. I want to. But ever since it happend I have has such an awful feeling about the relationship and I dont know what it is. I always find Im askin myslef "Do i stil love him?" or do I want to break up?? I do feel there is a barrier there now, and from talking with others such as my mum they just this its just the hurt from him doing what he did. But I wana be sure it is. I mean I get so down having thoughts like this because Ive been so happy with him up until now, and I hate feeling this way. I think deep down I stil love him, but I just want to be totally sure. I want to spend the rest of my life with him but I feel if this feeling doesnt go away Im guna have to break up with him. Every time I see anythin to do with break ups on tv or anywhere I get a horrible feeling. I just want to be happy with him instead of having this feeling. Whem Im with him I stil have that feeling but it isnt as bad. Everythin feels right when Im with him but I stil have a funny feeling. Can someone help me please?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): me in my boyfriend r having problem fussing alot what should i do.....to stop.....thatz excally how i feel sum times...... but i guess u cant stay close to no body
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2008): me in my boyfriend r having problem fussing alot what should i do.....to stop.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2008): Always remember: Absence makes the heart grow fonder!
If you really love, when apart, you will miss him so much and will look forward to get togehter again, if you don't miss him and move on, then you know it was not menat to be!
Good luck!
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reader, xoMeahxo +, writes (12 June 2008):
xoMeahxo is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI no wot u mean, and I have spoken 2 him about it. That is how confusing it is.He thinks it will just pass with time. Spending some time apart has crept up quite a lot but Im afraid if I do Ill maybe not need as much as I do and it will end. I rlly do not want 2 be with out him and Im afriad that If we spend time apart I mite not miss him and realise I dont want want 2 b with him anymore. Thats not wot I want at all. Shud I take the risk and spend sumtime apart?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (12 June 2008):
No one can tell you if you are in love with him, but you seem to have jumped on this feeling as an excuse to break up.
You don't say, "if I carry on feeling like this I am going to have to talk to him about it and try and have a serious think or some time apart." You said "I'm going to dump him." Even though you also say you want to spend the rest of your life with him.
I can't tell you how you feel and you just have to do some thinking and talk to him about it. Are you with him just because you always have and are scared of change? Don't stay with him out of habit or because it's easy. Stay with him because you love him.
Good Luck!! xx
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