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writes: HelloI was dating a girl for 2 months and everything was going great, until x-mas when she stopped putting effort into our relationship right after a trip to where she resently moved from. Then she stopped telling me about what was going on and wouldn't talk. Then she called one night and said, "I just want to be friends". Anyways, I asked her why she suddenly got sick of me and asked what she was hiding. She said "Im not sick of you, I just felt like your more of a friend than anything, I still want you in my life, your a great person" before we broke up, she said she loved me and I treated her pretty good I think. I am having a really hard time getting over her. What's your opinions?Thank you
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reader, 89th +, writes (20 January 2009):
89th is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou guys helped so much, I work with her in a small store, so I see her all the time. Only time have the nerve say whats on my mind is through text. I have tried so hard to not be avengeful. I'm just not smart or experienced enough to know that to think when it comes to people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): you have grown so close to her too much and it looked like you are thr only 1 in that relationship, beliv me i think if she loved you she wouldnt have done that to you, i myself have been through alot, i have gone as low as 1 can go but yet, i have my head pustraight do the same and let go... or try getting her back and see what the out come is... but DO NOT AVANGE
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 January 2009): i'm going through sort of the same thing, the girl i want to be with has said she wants to be friends but we never gave it a real go and she always says its her not me. i'm just tryin to forget about her in a relationshp way but i will stay friends bcoz you never know what will happen in the future. my advice move on but stay friends bcoz if she means that much to you its better havin her in your life as a friend rather than not at all
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 You are having a hard-time because shes given you no closure. She's essentially said you have done everything right but she's chucking you anyway. It sounds to me like shes not overly sure of what she wants either and possibly even didnt want to end it with you so whether you know it or not you are picking up on that.
Hmmm there is something that isnt quite right here; if i had to hazard a wild guess id say she met an old flame on her trip and although it isnt necessarily true that something happened it was enough to rekindle old feelings in her a little and that in herself would have driven her into herself through guilt.
She decided the best way to resolve that was to end things with you and is now in a total tangle and is dragging you there with her; what you need to do is actually talk to her about what is going on and explain how you are feeling. Say that you need to talk things through so you can either work them out or get some closure to move on yourself. Good luck :)
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