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writes:Hi All,I have a slight problem. There is this guy I have known my whole life-literally (we grew up spending summers and xmas together). We've always been in touch but recently we've gotten even closer-the last 4 months we have spoken to each other everyday and we can talk about everything. A few weeks ago when we were talking we ended up kissing. He avoided me the next day and when I confronted him he said it shouldn't have happened (He is kind of this relationship-his parents have set him up with someone and even though he isn't happy he said he is going to work at it for his parents and her perents who mean a lot to him) Anyway when I confronted him he basically told me the kiss should never have happened but then it ended up happening again and we ended up sleeping with each other. The next day we were both kind of embarassed and we both avoided each other. I called him to talk about it and he has said he needs space for a few weeks. I think somehow my feelings for him went from friendship to a little more than friendship and I only realised the night we kissed which he initiated both nights. I don't know what to do. I am giving him his space but I feel that our friendship has been completely ruined. Any advice appreciated! Thank You
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your response!!
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reader, trueheartconfused  +, writes (3 May 2007):
Don't know what you expect from the relationship between you and him.
If he thinks of you more than just a friend , these kind of things should have happened long time ago, men are more aggressive than women in dating games, usually when they see someone they like , they will pursue without hesitation, if he slept with you but avoided you afterwards, that's very clear message that he doesn't actually feel that way about you .
Right now you will have to decide how to go about this relationship and what do you want it to be without getting your feelings hurt, if you want to remain friend with him , be that way, next time you talk to him , just pretend nothing happended, as time goes by , both of you will forget about it, but if you want something more than just a friendship, I am sorry you will likely to get yourself hurt .
Actually it was wrong for him to initiate having sex with you twice, maybe he just wanted to see if there was any spark between you two, but unfortunately he seems already got his answer, the question is , did you get your answer from sleeping with him ?
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