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writes:Hi guysI posted this question about 2 weeks ago. The situation has developed further so I'm asking for assistance again.here is the original question:-------------------------------------Ok this is kind of complicated so please read through the whole thing. I'm 16 and have never been in a relationship before - I've never even been asked out so I'm really confused as to what I should do.Well there's a forum on the internet that I go to for people from local high schools and there's this guy on the forum that I really like. It turns out I had sat next to him at a seminar a couple of months ago and didn't actually know about it.When I realised I thought he was really cute was about a week ago when there was an activity for local high school students at a college and he was in my group for activities.I knew it was him, because he said in the forum that he was going and his first name (also his forum name) isn't exactly common. He posted about what activities he did in the forum afterwards so I knew it was definitely him.The whole day I couldn't stop sneaking glances at him, but I couldn't pluck up the courage to talk to him.From what he has posted on the forum it sounds like we are interested in similar things and have similar aspirations for the future so I think he would be nice to at least chat with sometimes.It's unlikely that I will see him by chance again so I want to do something about it, but I'm just way to shy to ask for his email or something.Can anybody help me with how I can get him to ask me for my email address or something?Thankyou.--------------------------------------and then: i didn't mention this initially - but i think the first half of the battle is even getting him to notice me. he has talked to me a couple of times but only in the context of thread discussion so i kind of need to get his attention to start with. any tips for this???----------------------------------now here's the 2 big problems.....1. he hasn't been to the forum in over 10 days so i think he may have just stopped going to it altogether.2. i took a stab in the dark and guessed that his forum name would be his hotmail and added him BUT with a phoney address because i was to nervous to actually just add him. i've talked to him once only briefly and been online a few times since and he hasn't talked to me since our initial conversation (although that was under the pretence that i was from another country and had added him by mistake)i really like him, but i don't want to admit what i did as i feel this would embarrass him that he fell for it, and also make him think i am a complete freak.i feel really bad for doing being so deceptive and i can't stop thinking about it.how can i fix the situation or should i just let it go???
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2007): any other advice. i need all the help i can get.
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reader, Peterk5699  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 Now that you know his email you could quite using the phoney one and add him onto msn. Try telling him that you really like talking to him on the forums and wanted to do so in private. You guessed his email was his username and tada! You were right.
Don't blurt into saying youu're in love etc blah cos that'll freak him out big time and he'll think you're a stalker. Take it slow and talk civilised and finally tell him you really like him and put perhaps you could put things a step forward into a relationship.
Remember: Don't blurt it out that you're in love with him. Do it the way I did and say it in steps. Tell him you're in love with a boy on one message. The next he'll probably ask "Who?". and tell him you're talking to him right now and he'll possibly catch on it's him.
Good luck!!
Pete
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