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writes:In early June, I met this guy at a party. At first, I had no interest in him at all. All my friends were triggering the idea with little comments like, "Awh, do you like him?" but I just laughed and said "no!" But by the end of the night, I knew this was the guy, I was going to end up falling for, and it just so happens that I was right.I gave him my number, and I recieved phone calls from him all the time. Asking me to see him, flirting with me, etc. All that other cute stuff. After a few times getting together, we had a few drinks and had sex. I thought this had dropped a bomb in between us and that would be the end for us. He stopped calling me and my first instinct was, "He used me for sex!" I was quite upset. A week later we agreed to meet in person and we talked about it, and turns out there was other things going around of what I had said about it, etc. We we're good. Now, he has moved away from about an hour from here. When, I call him, he says little things like, "I was sad until you called" and I feel the same way when he calls me. The thing is, I am fourteen and he is seventeen and he thinks I am too young for him. Is this just an excuse, or does he really like me? He always tells me to come see him and how much he misses me. I want to be with him, I speak so highly of him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2008): hey.
i was kinda in the same situation as you 2years ago, i was 14 and he was 17, we both also met at a party, but when he found out i was only 14 it was all awkward between us.
but then when i turned 15 we met up again and started going out. and now i am 17 and he is 19, and we both have a brilliant realitionship, living together and everything.
but the thing is, when you turn 15 he will be 18,
so he will officialy be an adult while you are still classed as a child.
i know you won't think off yourself as a child but to many people your still very young. which is what he might be worried about.
but for him to have sex with you while you are so so so young makes me think he doesn't respect you enough to have a steady realithonship with you.
and if he is moving away maybe that could be for the best, as if he is saying your too young, then he might just be using that as an excuse, becasue he didn't think you were too young when he slept with you.
he may like you, but i don't think he is ready for a steady realionship.
good luck with what you choose x
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reader, look samurai dick  +, writes (4 August 2008):
from a guys perspective - ive been in the same sort of boat as him when i was younger so its easy for me to say that you are to young for him.
every year you change so much. think how much you have changed since you were 13. imagine dating a 10 year old.im not trying to be rude, because i doubt he sees you as a kid but im trying to get into perspective how different your minds are.
im going to be straight up. he obviously fancies you enough to sleep with you, he probably likes you as a person. but dont waste your time . hes learnt he can get away with using you so he will do it again. you are to young for him trust me. find a nice boy who actaully treats you with respect and wants you for you. they are out there. you deserve that rather than chasing someone.
i get that boys your own age still seem a bit young but that will all change soon enough.
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reader, muffy  +, writes (3 August 2008):
 Okay hunny,First of all,you are too young.Older guys break more hearts so it'd be better if you just break it off.He might be saying that because he knows your too young.Maybe moving away from you is better so you guys can meet new people that are your own age.I know it's gonna be hard but I think you can do it.Trust me,once you get over him everything will get better for you.
Hope i've helped
Love always,Muffy
P.S.-If you have any questions just message me3
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