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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I really like this man who is much older than me.I am 25, and he is 44, and i am finding it difficult to talk to him about my feelings. We have known each other a couple of years now. At first, i gave him space as he had just come out of a long term relationship. He had been with her for eight years. More recently, he flirted with me on msn and he even started talking to me in a sexual way. We have only met up about six times in all the time i have known him though, five tiems as a group, and only once alone. He asked me to meet up a few more times but some things came up. When he saw me in person, he winked at me a few times, put his arm around me, sat holding my hand once, things like that, but now, he doesn't come online as often, and even when he does he doesnt ask to meet and i get scared of asking him incase he rejects me. Today, for example, i told him that i saw a guy who looked like him a couple of days ago and thought it was him, but it wasnt. He told me a few people had said they had seen someone else who looked like him.I tried to make conversation by telling him that i'm moving house in a few weeks too, but he didn't talk about it. I asked how he was, and he said he was ok ish, i asked why and he said it's just life. I said i was sorry as i thought i was annoying him ( i said that because i am insecure as i dont know waht he thinks of me and he wont open up about anything, regarding us, or about his life in general ). He said i dont annoy him, then i asked was he sure, and he said yeah i'm sure. i logged out without saying goodbye to him though as i couldnt think how to continue the conversation. I wanted to ask him if he wanted to meet up sometime, but he never mentions it so how can i ?. And i dont think it would be like i am pressurring him or anything, as we have known each other for a long time now. I know you might think he's not worth it if he hasnt met me much by now, but i cant help how i feel about him. I just wish we could talk in person instead of always on the computer. What can i do ?. He'll probably think there is something wrong now as i logged out without saying goodbye, and because i said i thought i annoyed him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Hi. To be honest, i dont mind if he only wants a casual relationship, even if its sexual, but it's the fact that he doesnt seem to want to meet up at all that upsets me. I dont want to get too serious with anyone either yet, but i just wish something could happen between us as i really like him.
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